Live Coaching Session: A Coach Gets Coached On His Own Video (Real & Unscripted)

If you coach people - or lead people you're trying to help grow - you already know what good coaching is supposed to look like. When did you last let someone do it to you?This live coaching session is what happens when two coaches decide to stop talking about vulnerability and actually practise it.Jim Thompson - co-author of Video Coaching Done Well - coaches Shane Leaning using the video coaching method, live, in front of a LinkedIn audience. Shane had filmed himself leading a session of his Education Leaders Intensive: 18 school leaders from around the world, meeting weekly on a 10-week programme. He watched it back. He was not happy with what he saw.'I was rambling,' Shane said. 'Lots of filler words. And I could feel myself going: come on, Shane, these are leaders giving up their time.'So he brought the clip to Jim.During the session, Shane admitted something he'd never quite said out loud: 'Before every session, I tell my wife - this is going to be the worst one yet. She must be sick of it. I know it's not true. But the nerves come every time.'Twenty minutes later, Shane had three concrete strategies he didn't walk in with. And the problem turned out to be different from what he'd thought. Not a skill gap. A confidence dip - one that hit at the very opening of each session, before he'd had a chance to settle. Once it was named, the way forward became obvious.Jim walked away thinking about a single word. What if coaches replaced 'goal' with 'intention'? It changes how people show up to the conversation entirely.If you coach, lead, or teach - here's what you'll take from this: → The "money question" Jim uses that unlocks more than "what would you do differently?" does → Why the best coaching questions don't come from a prepared list - they come from listening → The goal vs intention distinction (and when each one serves the coachee better) → Three grounding strategies for showing up with clarity when nerves have other plans → What "holding space" actually looks and feels like - demonstrated liveThis is Coaching Done Well. Coaches need coaches. If you work with other people's growth and you've been saying that without quite acting on it - this episode is for you.👇 Have you ever filmed yourself coaching or teaching and watched it back? What did you see? Tell us in the comments.🔔 Subscribe to Coaching Done Well for more honest conversations about what it actually takes to get better at this work.TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Welcome from Shanghai and upstate New York 1:09 - Setting the scene 4:23 - Acknowledgements and the power of connection 6:27 - Shane explains what's about to happen 9:20 - The coaching begins 11:20 - What gives Shane energy in this work 13:46 - Shane names his goal: clarity and succinctness 16:03 - Scaling the goal 1-10 18:58 - The money question: what would your coachees be doing differently? 21:24 - How do you even measure that? 25:25 - What does "clarity" actually mean? 27:31 - Three strategies Shane commits to 30:22 - What Shane learned about himself as a coach 33:13 - Goal vs intention - a word that changes everything 40:43 - The power of listening for a coach 43:04 - The learning question: what's been most useful? 45:04 - Closing reflectionsShane Leaning: educationleaders.co#LiveCoachingSession #VideoCoaching #CoachingSession #CoachingSkills #LeadershipCoaching #ProfessionalDevelopment #CoachingDoneWell #ExecutiveCoaching #InstructionalCoaching #EducationLeaders