LPP#107 Suffering Happens When You Resist Reality, Getting Curious About The Stories Around Your Emotions and Thoughts, & Beliefs We Have About Our Pain with Kara Loewentheil

I’m speaking with Kara Loewentheil, who is a Master Certified Life Coach. With a B.A. from Yale and a J.D. from Harvard Law she brings the skills from her previous career as a women’s rights lawyer to her life coaching. Additionally her approach is rooted in cognitive psychology-based techniques and feminist theory. She likes to think of herself as a fun, feminist, non-judgmental combo of life coach and feminist mentor. BROUGHT TO YOU BY: CORA: use the code LIVENGPROOF for 10% off your purchase Liveng Proof Lightroom Mobile Preset 6-PackGet the preset 6-pack and take your photos to the next level! CLICK HERE TO BUY THE PRESETS CONNECT WITH ENGRID: Follow Engrid on Instagram HEREJoin the Private FB GroupHEREEmail Engrid: [email protected] CONNECT WITH KARA: Website: unfuckyourbrain.com Instagram: @karaloewentheil Podcast: unfuckyourbrain.com/podcasts IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS: You can’t just tell yourself to NOT believe somethingWhen you believe something, it just means you’ve thought it a lot – you’ve created a mental habitWhy it’s important to focus on what you want to think INSTEAD, to replace the thought patterns that aren’t serving youWhen trying to implement a thought shift, focus on babystep thoughtsBeing open to the idea that “I may not even be able to imagine what is possible beyond where I’m at right now”The brain wants to be RIGHT, even if that means you feel miserableAnticipatory fear of feeling a feelingLearning how to process an emotion: learning how to have a feeling and not have it feel so terrible & how to change your thoughts (knowing you have the tools to deal with the feeling)Our brains default to assigning meaning/ identifying with our fear-based emotions Why women struggle to express their anger, and why men struggle to express sadnessWhy she doesn’t think it’s important to focus on where your habits/tendencies came fromEmotions are not an emergency signalWe are taught to believe we need to change our body – ask yourself, “who is benefiting when I feel this way?” When we want reality to be different than it is, this is when we experience suffering“If all you’ve ever experienced is what it’s like to have a negative emotion while you are resisting and you doing think it should be there and that is a problem, then you don’t actually know what it feels like to have a negative emotion and not resist it.”The stages of recovery to healing the relationship with your body/ body imageWhy she doesn’t subscribe to “high vibe” and why she doesn’t need to adopt the emotions or outlook of others“As soon as you’re judging your own thoughts, you’re making it SO hard to change them”When we judge our own thoughts we create shame Learning to value YOUR thoughts to graduate on eventually to letting go of what people think DONATE TO THE PODCAST SHOW SOME LOVE If you love the show and want to support it in some way, leave a review on iTunes. It helps get the show in front of new people. LISTEN ON THE COMPUTER: Advertisements (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({ google_ad_client: "ca-pub-1845753290669994", enable_page_level_ads: true }); The post LPP#107 Suffering Happens When You Resist Reality, Getting Curious About The Stories Around Your Emotions and Thoughts, & Beliefs We Have About Our Pain with Kara Loewentheil appeared first on Liveng Proof.