LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths

• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Colette Fehr • Discussion of recording schedule and Twitch/YouTube streams • Breakdown of seven relationship myths and modern realities • Myth 1: Compromise often means mutual loss—prioritize listening and connection • 69% of problems are unsolvable; focus on empathy, not victory • Use 1–10 scale to gauge partner priorities and set boundaries • Avoid people-pleasing; long-term avoidance kills authenticity • Myth 2: Open communication doesn't mean oversharing—filter strong emotions • Clarity before honesty prevents resentment and defensiveness • Humor and tone matter when giving feedback • Myth 3: Small stuff matters—minor hurts build into resentment • Direct, quick talks prevent emotional weight from piling up • Most therapy deals with small misunderstandings, not huge fights • Learn forgiveness; most conflicts come from misread intentions • Practice kind assertiveness—voice needs calmly and clearly • Myth 4: Intimacy doesn't fade—it evolves through vulnerability • Fear of rejection blocks sexual honesty; share fantasies openly • Timing and tone make difficult talks easier • Address libido issues with curiosity, therapy, and health focus • Recognize differing sexual rhythms and emotional needs • Maintaining novelty strengthens long-term desire • Myth 5: Chores or money don't break couples—disconnection does • Appreciation and communication outweigh perfection • Myth 6: Speaking up isn't conflict—it's clarity • Myth 7: "Never go to bed angry" is false—cool off before resolving • Emotional regulation and rest improve repair conversations • Promotion of Fehr's book *The Cost of Quiet* (colettejanefehr.com) • Invite listeners to email questions and subscribe for new episodes ### **Social Media:** [Website](https://tomanddan.com/) | [Twitter](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) | [Facebook](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) | [Instagram](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) **Where to Find the Show:** [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2FtZWRpb2NyZXRpbWUvcG9kY2FzdC54bWw) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Mediocre-Time-p364156/) **The Tom & Dan Radio Show on Real Radio 104.1:** [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-corporate-time/id975258990) | [Google Podcasts](https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL2Fjb3Jwb3JhdGV0aW1lL3BvZGNhc3QueG1s) | [TuneIn](https://tunein.com/podcasts/Comedy/A-Corporate-Time-p1038501/) **Exclusive Content:** [Join BDM](https://tomanddan.com/registration) **Merch:** [Shop Tom & Dan](https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/)