Love Thy Neighbor Show
by Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and Colette Fehr
Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom's 20-year marriage, Dan's 15-year marriage, and Colette's second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.
Episodes
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LTN 52 - Approaching Modesty
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "Approaching Modesty" (LTN 52) Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads My Eternal Vitality (myeternalvitality.com): Opening read for Dr. Powers. The hosts cover hormone testing and HRT for women, which Colette has…
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LTN 51 - Colette Not Cool Kids
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: 51 Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads My Eternal Vitality: Sponsor ad read for MyEternalVitality.com. Segment Rundown Cold open: the apology. Dan nearly flubs the intro, then Tom apologizes to Colette for…
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LTN 50 - Since You've Birdgone
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads Central Homes Roofing: Commercial spot (added in post). Segment Rundown Cold open: Combos for dinner. Dan admits that when his daughter's mother is away, dinner is a bag of Combos with a...
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LTN 49 - Kentucky Steve
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "Kentucky Steve" Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: credentials check. The hosts list what qualifies them. One was forklift certified in…
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LTN 48 - The Dinner Divorce
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "The Dinner Divorce" (LTN48) Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: intro debate. The hosts argue over whether they need to introduce…
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LTN 47 - Let's Talk About It Now
Love Thy Neighbor: Episode Notes Episode: "Let's Talk About It Now" (LTN 47) Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: rough restart. The hosts explain that last week's show was skipped...
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LTN 46 - Pity Sex
Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes - LTN 46 - Pity Sex Hosts: Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, Colette Fehr | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No dedicated sponsor/ad-read segment in this transcript. A supplement brand targeting low testosterone/low libido is referenced in passing during the discussion (not a...
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LTN 45 - Take Me Line Dancing
Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes Episode: "Take Me Line Dancing" Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor segments or ad reads appear in this episode. Segment Rundown Cold open: 80s cover band night — The hosts open by discussing a Molly...
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LTN 44 - Mama Coco's Milk Vortex
Love Thy Neighbor — Episode Notes Episode: "Mama Coco's Milk Vortex" Hosts: Tom Vann, Colette Fehr, Dan Dennis | Guest: None Sponsors / Ad Reads No sponsor or ad-read segments appear in this transcript. Segment Rundown Cold open: age is just a number — Banter kicking off the show about...
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LTN 43 - Talking to Teens
Love Thy Neighbor returns for back-to-school season Late-night fishing with Tommy leads to no shave and unfinished dishes Close friends use deep trust to safely needle each other Tom and Dan function like a non-sexual married couple Imagining Tom and Dan's productivity as a gay couple Teen…
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LTN 42 - We're Back!
Website: https://tomanddan.com/ App: https://tomanddan.com/app Become a BDM: https://tomanddan.com/registration Merch: https://tomanddan.myshopify.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomandDanLive Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/tomanddanlive Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AMediocreTime...
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LTN 41 - The Icelandic Dilemma
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show and listener updates Colette prepares for Italy with language lessons Why Italy's culture, food and slower pace are so appealing Venice travel stories and European dress expectations Rushing vacations vs staying longer in one destination Dressing respectfully…
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LTN 40 - The Art of Saying No
Off-air teaser and bonus live content for Twitch and YouTube viewers Why people struggle to say no Fear of disappointing others and people-pleasing Healthy compromise vs chronic people-pleasing Ignoring your own needs creates hidden resentment "Victim volcano" analogy for bottled-up emotions…
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LTN 39 - Friends with Anyone
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show introduction Jokes about lending friends money and buying a boat USA soccer win, FIFA officiating, and Bosnia confusion Friendships, family, and business relationships Handling money requests from friends and family Financial help can create guilt, pressure…
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LTN 38 - Prenups & More
Divorce rates are falling while marriage rates also decline. Younger adults marry and divorce less often. Gray divorce is rising among older couples. High living costs keep some unhappy couples together. More couples choose lifelong partnerships without legal marriage. Some couples hold weddings...
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LTN 37 - Men's Mental Help Month
Father's Day gift preferences vs traditional gifts Men and women valuing appreciation differently Joke about sexual favors as Father's Day gifts Father's Day overlapping with Men's Mental Health Month Growing up where men never discussed mental health Stigma around men prioritizing mental and...
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LTN 36 - Couples Therapy 101
Therapy recommendation changed a listener's life eight years later Therapy vs using alcohol to cope with stress and emotions Returning to therapy after emotional strain affected a marriage Benefits of talking with someone outside the relationship Mental health stigma and growing up without…
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LTN 35 - Pushing Yourself to Participate
Colette recovers from a successful book launch and discusses reader impact Jokes about writing books for money lead into relationship trends Gen Alpha AI romantic partner trend sparks concerns about future relationships Growing trend of couples maintaining independent lives within committed...
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LTN 34 - Growing Old Together
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show and anonymous listener emails Man reflects on life after raising kids and building a business with his wife Anxiety about retirement, aging, identity, and no longer being needed Fear of losing purpose after stepping away from career success Hustle culture…
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LTN 33 - Tit for Tat & Supporting Conflict
Debate over whether "high maintenance" means difficult or just outspoken Opposite personality traits attracting in relationships Emotional partners pairing with non-emotional partners Confident traits becoming annoying over time Restaurant table requests viewed differently by different...
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LTN 32 - Phubbing
Confusion over whether the show is called Love Thy Neighbor, LTN, or the relationship show Colette joking about being Double D and acting off the rails Marijuana drink jokes and therapy client humor Listener email asking why Colette works with Tom and Dan Hate listening and consuming content…
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LTN 31 - Flawed and Damaged
Reigniting relationship spark with affection, novelty, and deeper conversations Relationships becoming transactional with kids, work, and routines Reflection on separation and divorce during a South Beach birthday trip Relief and optimism after leaving an unhappy marriage Story of meeting a…
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LTN 30 - Piles of Secrets
Love Thy Neighbor rebranding discussion and tone shift Dan jokes about appearance, gray sideburns, unshaven look Beard dye trends and contrast of gray vs dark facial hair Ska band and exaggerated character comparisons Listener email segment kicks off after backlog Husband obsessed with Instagram...
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LTN 29 - The Kids Are Alright
Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts:...
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LTN 28 - Are They Into Me
Show intro jokes about smooth opening and host banter Colette praised for wide range of talks and promo work Desire to do more public speaking but lacking demand Upcoming Rollins College talk on communication and conflict Online dating class with Wing Girl on sustaining attraction Focus on...
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LTN 26 - Listener Emails
Hormone therapy benefits include energy, sleep, overall health, and balanced estrogen, testosterone, progesterone Promo offer 100 off evaluation through MyEternalVitality with podcast mention Ghosting in jobs and relationships as avoidance of hard conversations Ghosting framed as self protection...
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LTN 25 - Reality TV Relationships
Social Media https://tomanddan.com https://x.com/tomanddanlive https://facebook.com/amediocretime https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive Where to Find the Show Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682 Google Podcasts:...
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LTN 24 - Limited Bandwidth
Sponsor promo for MyEternalVitality.com and Dr Powers offering $100 off hormone evaluation and blood testing Discussion of hormone replacement therapy improving energy, libido, sleep, and overall quality of life Mention of gut health testing and identifying foods that trigger inflammation Dan…
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LTN 23 - Vulnerability
Introduction to the Love Thy Neighbor relationship show with Dan Dennis, Tom Vann, and Colette Fehr Breaking news discussion about Britney Spears reportedly being arrested for DUI Lack of confirmed details about the Britney Spears arrest including no mugshot or BAC yet Discussion of Britney…
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LTN 22 - Dan and Shana LIVE
Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor relationship show with Colette Fehr Dan Dennis present and joking about liking being called Dan Dennis Story behind Dan calling Tom "T" tied to Tom's late brother Tim New segment idea interviewing listener couples about relationships on Zoom First listener couple...
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LTN 21 - Morgan & Leo
Love Thy Neighbor show intro with therapist Colette Fehr Discussion of book The Cost of Quiet on Audible Characters Morgan and Leo overview Leo emotionally distant provider father Morgan carrying most parenting duties Morgan reconnects with ex and has affair Can emotional neglect feel worse than...
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LTN 20 - Annoyances
Coordinated show opening banter Colette forgets makeup and panics before recording Tom provides emergency mascara from truck kit Nearly hitting Colette in the parking lot while distracted Busy schedules and constant business work Mascara as minimum presentable look Keeping emergency makeup at the...
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LTN 19 - Chivalry Is Not Dead
Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fair Playful debate over old school chivalry and introducing women Promoting Colette Fair podcast and her book The Cost of Quiet How traditional chivalry feels awkward to younger generations Southern manners like yes maam and holding...
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LTN 18 - LIVE at The Cost of Quiet Launch
Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor without Colette present Colette book The Cost of Quiet hits Amazon bestseller Audio from live launch at Mercedes-Benz of Maitland Professional production and full event program Feeling like misfits among polished attendees Jokes about BDM prize skunks chasing…
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LTN 17 - Levels Of Dependence
Love Thy Neighbor relationship show intro Colette Jane Fair as therapist co-host Colette Jane Fair book promotion and name spelling Easier book access at thecostofquiet.com Jokes about bad spelling and confidence Florida cold weather shock and routines Comedy song about being too cold Comparing...
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LTN 16 - The Power of Self Talk
* Love Thy Neighbor intro with Colette Fair and sold out book party in Maitland * Middle names used on air * Dan originally named Dan Lee before radio * Name came from college musician friend * Dan hated Dan Lee and changed it * Joke about Daniel Day Lewis * Colette knowing little about the hosts…
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LTN 15 - Handling Aging
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor and Colette Fair as recurring relationship expert • Casual emotional check-in with Colette and jokes about free advice and "private" episodes • Shift to self-esteem, confidence, and how aging impacts desirability • Aging anxiety framed as more intense for women...
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LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety
• Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the...
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LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day
• Love Thy Neighbor introduced as a relationship show focused on growth • Financial stress framed with humor about offering creative services • New year positioned as a moment for relationship reflection, not reinvention • Focus on small, attainable changes over drastic relationship overhauls •...
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LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home
• Debate over repeating the show title and old-school radio presentation • Traditional radio habits versus modern podcast structure • Adjusting how hosts and guests are introduced on-air • Colette's media tour to Atlanta, Washington D.C., and Phoenix/Scottsdale • Delayed release of…
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LTN 11 - Communicate
• Holiday stress, polarized feelings, and relationship strain • Simplifying expectations and focusing on connection • Intentional family time and low-effort activities like games and puzzles • Screen overstimulation making simple activities feel boring • Relearning enjoyment away from devices •...
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LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce
• Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences • Colette's relaxed holiday without her kids • Daniel's stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles • Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires • Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid • Giants'...
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LTN 9 - The Bird Theory
• Audience enjoying the relationship show • Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify • More relationship content appearing in social media feeds • Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness • Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds •…
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LTN 8 - Cutoffs
• Live launch of "A Corporate Time with Tom and Dan" on Twitch and YouTube • Promotion of free Bad at Business Beerfest (Nov 22) and Sofas and Suds couch races (Nov 23) in Sanford • Both events are free, family-friendly, and include unlimited beer samples for 21+ • "Weird Job Wednesday" debuts…
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LTN 7 - The Online Dating Disconnect
• Launch of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fehr • Banter about walking to Publix and Colette teasing Dan • Colette attends "Pitch a Friend" Orlando dating event and explains its PowerPoint pitch format • Discussion of dating app burnout, swipe fatigue, and loss of real connection…
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LTN 6 - Colette VS Whatever
• "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and therapist Colette • Colette's California media tour for her book • Colette appears on the controversial "Whatever" podcast • "Whatever" framed as alpha/anti-woke male genre • Critique of toxic masculinity and "men under attack" tropes • Other shows...
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LTN 5 - Outdated Relationship Myths
• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Colette Fehr • Discussion of recording schedule and Twitch/YouTube streams • Breakdown of seven relationship myths and modern realities • Myth 1: Compromise often means mutual loss—prioritize listening and connection • 69% of problems are unsolvable…
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LTN 4 - Navigating Breakups
• Introduction to Love Thy Neighbor and listener anonymity • Loveline-style approach to relationship advice • Divorce: emotional and financial toll, stigma, changing views • Hidden unhappiness in long marriages • Why people stay or leave relationships • Social media's impact on love, breakups…
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LTN 3 - Accepting Jealousy Without Control
• Introduction of "Love Thy Neighbor" with therapist Colette Fehr • Welcome new listeners and mention high podcast ranking • Hosts called "teenage boys" for humor and immaturity • Men maintaining adolescent humor • Humor as coping mechanism and healthy outlet • Colette's husband's immature...
About this show
Love Thy Neighbor is a straight-talk relationship show from Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and licensed therapist Colette J. Fehr - born the day Colette knocked on their door and they realized they were literal next-door neighbors. Together, they bring 50 years of broadcasting (Dan 30, Tom 20) and 15 years of clinical counseling (Colette), plus real-life reps: Tom's 20-year marriage, Dan's 15-year marriage, and Colette's second, thriving chapter. Expect humor, empathy, and practical advice from both sides of the wall. New episodes every Thursday, wherever you get your podcasts.
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Tom Vann, Dan Dennis, and Colette Fehr
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