Managing Conflict in Relationships: Lessons for Everyday Life

Mike Hassell is an author, engineer, and management professional with a background in electrical engineering from Georgia Tech. He has worked in management roles at IBM and within the publishing industry, focusing on the great ideas of history. Mike’s curiosity spans both the technical and humanities fields, leading him to pen his latest book, Deep Tradeoffs: Restoring Balance and Respect in a Polarized Angry World. His work aims to bridge the gap between conflicting values and ideologies by identifying trade-offs and fostering a better understanding in a divided world.Episode Summary:In this engaging episode of "Transform Your Mind to Transform Your Life," host Myrna welcomes Mike Hassell, author of the groundbreaking book Deep Tradeoffs: Restoring Balance and Respect in a Polarized Angry World. Throughout the podcast, Myrna and Mike delve deep into the complexities of conflict, exploring how understanding trade-offs can foster balance, peace, and mutual respect in increasingly polarized societies.Mike Hassell shares his journey from working at IBM and his extensive experience in engineering and management, which shaped his unique perspective on conflicts and trade-offs. The conversation covers various contentious topics such as abortion, euthanasia, and political polarization, highlighting how individuals can argue both sides of an issue and make nuanced decisions. Mike advocates for the importance of valuing relationships over agreement, emphasizing the inevitability of conflict and the need for humility and a broader perspective when confronting differences.Key Takeaways:Understanding Conflict: Conflict is inevitable and should be seen as an opportunity to understand different values and perspectives, rather than a problem to be solved.Value Relationships: Building and maintaining relationships is more important than achieving agreement or uniformity in views.Subconscious Influences: Human decisions are often driven by subconscious biases and instincts, which can lead to confirmation biases and motivated reasoning.Balancing Principles: Key principles such as autonomy, duty not to harm, and respect for the law often conflict, requiring a nuanced approach to decision-making, especially in contentious issues like abortion and euthanasia.Common Ground: Finding common ground and valuing humanity over strict adherence to ideology can help bridge divides in a polarized world.See this video on The Transform Your Mind YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@MyhelpsUs/videosTo see a transcripts of this audio as well as links to all the advertisers on the show page https://myhelps.us/Follow Transform Your Mind on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/myrnamyoung/Follow Transform Your mind on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063738390977Please leave a rating and review on iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/transform-your-mind/id1144973094Feedspot Top 100 Mental Health Podcast For sponsored Brand interviews and sponsorship inquires please visit Partner With The Transform Your Mind Podcast | Myrna Young Life Coach