Mark Sartain: The Secret to Keeping Your Long Term Relationship Hot and Why It’s Deemed ”Toxic”

In this raw, no-BS conversation, male performance coach Mike Sartain (founder of Men of Action) joins the show to break down why so many men become complacent after marriage—and how to reverse it before it's too late. We dive deep into: Why men's testosterone levels plummet in marriage (and skyrocket after divorce) — and why TRT (testosterone replacement therapy) after age 35 could save more marriages than counseling ever will. The evolutionary truth about leadership, boundaries, and frame: Doing everything your wife asks doesn't earn loyalty—it breeds resentment and cheating. Learn why presenting a unified front in public, enforcing real boundaries (no other men touching her intimately, no public disrespect), and refusing baseless accusations is essential. Modern dating disasters: Smartphones + TikTok/Instagram addiction (especially post-1995 generation), dating apps, porn, and the disappearance of attractive women in nightlife have ruined the game. Women swipe away anything that doesn't spark instant dopamine—don't let that mindset enter your marriage. Why "nice guy" tendencies kill attraction: Avoiding confrontation creates bigger conflict. Lead decisively (e.g., "We're going to Toko Madera at 9 PM—be ready"), handle emotional tests calmly, and stop apologizing for other women finding you attractive (preselection works!). The double standard no one talks about: What turns men on (physical attraction) vs. what turns women on (status, leadership, respect). Good advice gets labeled "toxic" because it works—pandering gurus (Chris GQ Perry, etc.) just sell lies. Practical fixes: Get on TRT if needed (aim 700-900 ng/dL), lift heavy, stay lean (bench your bodyweight or risk divorce), have frequent sex (it's the glue), and support her glow-up while maintaining your edge. Obesity and low T are the real marriage killers—not "energy" or "vibes." If you're a married man feeling the spark fade, getting fat, passive, or disrespected—this is the wake-up call. Mike's military-style, technique-driven approach (inspired by Jocko/David Goggins but applied to dating & relationships) has helped thousands of high-achieving men reclaim their masculinity. Timestamps for key sections:0:00 – Intro & Mike's background (Military, Men of Action, high-status networking) 3:45 – Why men enter through "dating" but need leadership most 7:20 – Modern dating market destruction (social media, apps, smartphones since puberty) 12:10 – Testosterone drop in marriage + TRT as marriage saver 18:50 – Boundaries that actually work (no public disrespect, unified front, no baseless accusations) 25:40 – Leading decisively vs. endless "what do you want?" questions 32:15 – Respect for men = quelling rage & no sarcasm/attacks 38:00 – Pandering gurus vs. real evolutionary advice (why good advice gets called toxic) 45:30 – Preselection: Let other women find you attractive—it's good for her libido too 52:10 – Get in shape together: Sex & attraction cure most problems (challenge to marriage counselors!) 1:00:00 – TRT details, Ozempic realities, & final advice for married men Check out Mike Sartain's Men of Action program for more: https://www.moamentoring.com If this hit home, like, comment your biggest takeaway, and subscribe for more unfiltered talks on masculinity, relationships, and performance.#MarriageAdvice #Testosterone #MensHealth #Masculinity #TRT #BoundariesInMarriage #MikeSartain #MenOfAction #RelationshipAdvice #ModernDating