Modern Marriage with Monica
by Monica Almaguer
A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking! The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it. What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted... No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at! I’m the kind of person who needs specifi
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Why Your Wife is Never Happy and Should You Even Care?
Anson Belt & Buckle: Step up your belt game — get 2 bonus pieces FREE with the Box Set at http://ansonbelt.com/monicaunhappy Women today have more freedom, more money, and more safety than any women in history, yet they’re less happy than they were 50 years ago. 😳 Why? In this video I share my...
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The 5 Types of Sex Every Marriage Needs: PLUS the One Most Men Reject That They Shouldn’t
Has your wife ever gone along with sex when she wasn’t really feeling it, and afterward you thought, “What was the point of that?” 🤔 In this clip from Module 10 of my course, The Smoking Hot Marriage Method, I break down the 5 types of sex that show up in every long-term marriage and why every...
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What Does a Wife ”Owe” Her Husband When It Comes to Sex?
🔥 What does a wife owe her husband in marriage when it comes to sex? Everyone can list a husband's obligations: provide, protect, lead. Ask about a wife's obligations and the room goes quiet. In this video I answer it directly, and I talk to both husbands and wives. 💬 This started with an...
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6 Controversial Ways I Do Marriage That Would Put Most Women in a Coma
Most wives stop trying once they have the ring. Men get judged every day on whether they provide enough, parent well enough, and earn enough respect, and the goalposts keep moving. Almost nobody measures the wife's effort. I will. I used to be a low-effort wife myself, and about five years ago I...
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5 Things Men Do That Turn Women On
Level up your belt game here with Anson Belt & Buckle: http://ansonbelt.com/monicaturnon Want to know what turns a woman on? Here's the good news: it has nothing to do with hitting the gym, spending money, or changing who you are. There are things you do just by existing as a man that pour…
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How to be a Great ”Provider” Without Losing Your Wife and Marriage in the Process
Every entrepreneur tells himself the same lie: "I'm doing this FOR my family." Then his marriage crumbles while his bank account grows. This interview with serial entrepreneur Chaz Wolfe exposes the real problem—and the system that fixes it. Chaz has built and sold multiple businesses while…
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Why Your Wife Won’t Initiate Sex (And It’s Not About You)
Think your wife should want sex as much as you do? Think again. Most men don't understand why their wives rarely initiate—and that misunderstanding is creating resentment, disappointment, and ultimately, a sexless marriage. In this video, I break down the biological differences between male and...
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6 Things Married Women Get Wrong About Sex | What’s Killing Your Marriage
Most married women believe things about sex that are completely wrong—and it's destroying their marriages. These 6 misconceptions don't just damage intimacy; they're the reason husbands check out, feel rejected, and eventually look elsewhere. In this video, I'm breaking down exactly what married...
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5 Things I Can Say That Your Therapist Can’t (Sexless Marriage Truths)
Your therapist has their place. But there are 5 things I can say that they can't—and those are the things that actually change marriages. Therapists operate under laws, codes, and ethical boundaries designed to keep them neutral. That's their job. But sometimes neutrality keeps couples stuck....
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The Playbook to Genuine Sexual Desire (It’s Not Reason, Logic, or Shame)
The real playbook for genuine desire isn't what most men think. If your wife isn't showing up for you sexually, the problem usually isn't her—it's that she's simply not attracted to you enough. And here's what most men get wrong: you can't logic, shame, or scripture her into genuine desire. That...
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#1 Bedroom Coach Stirling Cooper Reveals How to Bring the Passion Back (Married Men Listen)
Sterling Cooper — former high-class escort, ex-adult film performer, and now one of the most in-demand bedroom coaches in the world — sits down with me in Vegas to talk about what actually keeps the passion alive in a marriage. Sterling brings something rare to the table: a combination of...
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Rollo Tomassi: The Real Fix for Your Sexless Marriage
Rollo Tomassi — the godfather of the manosphere and author of *The Rational Male* — sits down with me in Vegas to talk about what actually keeps a marriage hot for decades. We go deep on why he's been married 30 years while everyone insists a "red pill" guy can't be, why he's not anti-marriage…
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Why Having Kids Kills Her Sex Drive — And What You Can Do About It
Nobody warns you about this one. You get the "your life is about to change" congratulations after a pregnancy announcement — but nobody tells you exactly what that change means for your sex life. Once kids enter the marriage, for a lot of men, his sex life leaves. And it's usually not on purpose....
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Why Divorce Always Has to Be on the Table to Get Your Wife to Desire Sex and Have a Happy Marriage
Check Out My Course https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Most men think staying in a bad marriage is the noble thing to do. But what if the very fact that you'll never leave is the reason your marriage is dying? In this video I'm pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood...
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Should Wives Obey Their Husbands? The Honest Answer That Even Churches Refuse to Say Out Loud
Pearl Davis has been standing outside churches with a sign asking one simple question: should a wife obey her husband? And the wildest part is who's pushing back. Not the secular crowd you'd expect — the Christians. The people whose own book is clear about it. In this conversation I sat down with...
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Dead Bedroom? The #1 Cause Is Lost Polarity — And You Can Reverse It Today
Has your wife stopped being your wife in the bedroom? You split the chores, you split the bills, you co-parent — she might be the perfect partner in every way except this one. If that's been your reality for months (or years), you don't have a marriage problem. You have a polarity problem. You've...
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🚨 She’s Not Low Libido. She’s Low Libido FOR YOU. (6 Tells That Prove It)
Your wife says she has no sex drive. She says it's stress, hormones, the kids, her age — that it's not personal. But what if the truth is she has a libido… just not for you? In this video, I'm breaking down the 6 "tells" that reveal whether your wife actually has low libido — or whether she has…
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Christian Women Are Running Tests on You (And the Church Won’t Warn You)
The Christian dating and marriage world is broken — and the men inside it are paying the price. In this episode, I sit down with Matt Wilson of the Effective Purpose podcast to talk about what's really going on with Christian men: why so many "good guys" stay single into their late 30s, why...
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Hoe_math: ”Be Attractive. Be Willing to Walk. That’s It.” — The Only Two Rules Left
Hoe_math joins me to break down what's actually happening in the relationship and dating market — and why most men are losing without ever understanding the game they're in. He's the chart guy. The one drawing zones, levels, and behavior maps that explain female psychology better than anything…
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The Five Types of Men Who will Can Steal Your Woman and What She Finds So Attractive in All of Them
You've probably seen the story one too many times - guy posts online about his wife cheating with her personal trainer. But why is it ALWAYS the trainer? Or the firefighter? Or the professor? Is this just a cliche, or is there something deeper happening here? In this episode, I break down the 5...
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Are You Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive? The Attraction Killer that Even Good Men Fall Into
Are you operating in "hammer mode" without realizing it? This could be quietly destroying your chances of the marriage you actually want. In this video, I break down the dangerous spectrum men operate on - from nice guy to hammer mode - and show you exactly how to find the sweet spot that creates...
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What Women Really Want! Women’s Dating Expert Spills the Inner Secrets to a Woman’s Mind
In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Matthew Coast — a dating and relationship coach with 2.9 million followers on Facebook — to discuss the real struggles men and women are facing in love today. Matthew shares his unique journey from coaching men to becoming one of the most trusted...
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Sex in Marriage: How to Keep Intimacy Alive and Better Than Ever!
Today we flip the script in one of the most honest and inspiring conversations yet! I sit down with Tyler Todt— the most positive voice on Twitter/X, faith-driven family man, shredded dad, former pro poker player turned coach, and men's life coach — for a raw, back-and-forth interview. We start...
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The Shocking Truth About What it Really Takes to be a Great Wife and Why Most Women Fail
Have you ever wondered what it really takes to be a great wife — not just a good one? In this video, I break down my personal "Great Wife Framework" — the exact steps I took to intentionally level up my marriage after realizing I was only showing up as "decent." I didn’t have anyone sit me down…
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Why Doctors Crap All Over Hormones Pellets and Why They Need to Suck it Up and Get on Board
Tired of doctors constantly bashing hormone pellets? In this video, I break down why I think the criticism is unfair and often comes from personal bias rather than patient-centered care. Hormone pellets are small, bioidentical (estrogen and testosterone) implants inserted under the skin with a...
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What Men REALLY Need in Marriage (Respect, Sex & No BS): Truth Bombs Dropped from my Husband
In this raw, honest conversation, we answer YOUR questions from the community: Why most men stay silent in unhappy marriages, the "happy wife, happy life" trap, why respect trumps domination, how to lead without conflict, dealing with disrespect in public vs. private, the role of sex and intimacy...
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Stop Begging for Sex: Secrets Married Men Need to Know from a Retired Escort
Ever wondered why so many good men end up in sexless marriages, seeing escorts, or feeling rejected at home? In this raw, eye-opening interview, Monica Almaguer sits down with Mary Knight — a former high-end escort, madam, and now relationship coach — who shares shocking truths from over a decade...
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Why 2/3 of Adults Are Secretly UNABLE to Love (And How to Fix It Forever)
Discover why attachment styles are ruining modern relationships—and how to fix them for good. In this eye-opening interview, relationship expert and attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith joins host Monica Almaguer to break down the secure attachment revolution, the 4 main attachment styles (plus...
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”Hallmark Movies, 50 Shades, Vibrators… But Masturbation is Cheating? Hypocrisy Exposed”
Is masturbation and watching adult online content cheating in marriage? What if your wife says it feels like infidelity—does that make it so? In this raw, no-BS episode, I break down why defining cheating based on a woman's "feelings" is shaky ground at best. Key points covered: Why women's...
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Aaron Clarey: The TRUTH that Actually Helps Christian Men Save Themselves from a Dead Bedroom
Author Aaron Cleary joins me for this special live broadcast to discuss his latest book, I Don't Want a Threesome with Jesus. He provides a non Biblical real life worldly view that saves Christian men from a dead bedroom and how to actually operate as a pro sex married couple.
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LAURIN PONCE: Why 95% of Men Watch Us: Shocking Relationship Rules Women Hate But Need!
Join Monica Almaguer in this eye-opening interview with Lauren Ponce, the viral relationship expert who blew up on social media with her raw truths on masculine-feminine dynamics, polarity, and building unbreakable attraction in marriage. Lauren shares her incredible transformation from 275…
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Dr Kevin Jenson
Buckle up—this conversation might just change how you read your Bible forever. Monica Almaguer sits down with Bible scholar and sex educator Dr. Kevin Jenson, author of Sacred Not Sinful: A New Christian Sexual Ethic, for a raw, eye-opening deep dive into topics most churches won't touch:...
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How to Unleash Your Wife’s Wild Side! 5 Things Affecting Her Sexual Enthusiasm
Is your sex life “technically” okay (1-3 times a week) but it still feels… off? Your wife says yes, but you can tell she’s not really into it. No real hunger, no enthusiasm, just “being a good wife.” You’re not crazy — and your marriage isn’t doomed. This is one of the most common complaints I…
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Mark Sartain: The Secret to Keeping Your Long Term Relationship Hot and Why It’s Deemed ”Toxic”
In this raw, no-BS conversation, male performance coach Mike Sartain (founder of Men of Action) joins the show to break down why so many men become complacent after marriage—and how to reverse it before it's too late. We dive deep into: Why men's testosterone levels plummet in marriage (and...
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5 Simple Ways to Drive A Woman’s Sexual Desire by Having More Fun
Un this video I explain WHY playful, light-hearted energy is one of the strongest long-term drivers of a woman’s sexual attraction — and EXACTLY how men can bring more fun into everyday life to keep desire alive. If you’re a man who wants a deeper, lasting connection (not just short-term…
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4 Things the Red Pill Just Gets Flat Wrong About Relationships
Red Pill philosophy has provided millions of men with eye-opening truths about attraction, dating, and gender dynamics by rejecting mainstream romantic ideals like "just be yourself" and "true love conquers all." However, as a woman deeply familiar with the Red Pill community, I believe several...
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6 Responsibilities Married Women Have to Keep Her Sex Life Hot!
Are you a married woman struggling with low libido, a fading sex life, or feeling like the passion has died in your marriage? Or a husband searching for answers to a dead bedroom? This video flips the script on who's really responsible for keeping things HOT. Society constantly tells men what…
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How to Rebuild Your Life After Divorce or Crisis: Starting Over as a Man with DSO Ralph Brewer
After divorce, job loss, or any life-shattering event, many men feel lost and struggle to rediscover their identity and purpose. In this in-depth interview, five-time author Ralph Brewer shares insights from his new book "Rebuild: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man." Ralph draws from…
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The 5 Biggest Mistakes Men Make That Lead to Divorce (And How to Avoid Them)
With divorce rates hovering around 50% and women initiating 70-80% of them, many men are left wondering if marriage is even worth it in today’s world. While it’s easy to blame modern women, the legal system, or the institution itself, the truth is far more uncomfortable: most marriages don’t fail...
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Wife Says No to Sex? What Now? The Strategy to Take Back Your Sexual Frame
Wife Says No to Sex? What Married Men Should Actually Do When Rejected (Pragmatic Advice for Real Marriages) Every married man gets turned down for sex eventually — whether you have a high-sex marriage or you’re already in a low-sex or sexless one. The real question is: what should you do in that...
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How the Top 5% of Men Build Wealth, Lead Women & Avoid Divorce | The Unplugged Alpha Returns
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/ Benefits such as: 1. Early access to videos 2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health 3. Ability to ask Questions Directly Richard Cooper is BACK with his explosive new…
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Frustrated Wife Asks the Internet for Help For Why Her Husband Doesn’t Want to Sleep with Her
Law Enforcement Wife’s Heartbreaking Plea: Overworked Cop Husband Works 100+ Hours/Week, No Dates in 5 Years, Intimacy 4X Last Year – Is He Cheating, Depressed, or Addicted? (Viral 1.4M Update Reaction)A desperate police wife begs middle-aged married men for advice after 5 years of women’s tips...
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5 Fake Excuses Your Wife Gives For Not Wanting Sex: And the REAL Reason Behind Them All
Join Monica's Free Community Here: https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Benefits such as: 1. Early access to videos 2. Free access to Marriage Meter: A Quick & Easy Way to Assess Your Marriage Health 3. Ability to ask Questions Directly Contact...
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Women File 70% of Divorces: But Are They the One’s to ”Blame”?
In this raw, eye-opening episode, Monica Almaguer dives deep into why modern men are struggling with leadership—and how it's fueling America's 50% divorce rate. It's not about blaming women (who enter marriage with good intentions). It's about owning your role: defensiveness, ignoring her…
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Husbands: Gain Respect, Gain Passion – 5 Traits That Supercharge Her Sex Drive
If you're a husband wondering "how do I get my wife to respect me more," recognize that this question shows real self-awareness—respect is the cornerstone of her ongoing mental and emotional attraction to you. Without it, even the strongest marriages can falter, but the good news is that the bar...
About this show
A couple of years ago, when I went searching for specific tips, tools and tricks to help me level up my marriage. I read books, I searched the internet, I watch YouTube...But the information I found was...shall I say...lacking!
The information also was not particularly relevant to the unique challenges of today’s modern marriages with both people juggling the pressures of working outside the home, living up to societal pressures of those ”perfect” homes, bodies, and all other kinds of expectations that comes from social media. And speaking of social media, what about all the ”temptations”, instant access and just overall problems that come along with it.
What was out there tended to be fluffy statements like ”be more loving” or ”communicate more”, or the God-awful advice of ”Never go to bed angry”-like anybody can solve anything when they are exhausted...
No wonder the divorce rate is where it’s at!
I’m the kind of person who needs specifi
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