Marriage Seasons: Episode 4

Forgiveness is one of the hardest parts of marriage because the person you love the most can sometimes be the person who hurts you the deepest. Forgiveness does not mean pretending the hurt never happened. It does not mean that what your spouse did was acceptable. And it does not mean trust automatically returns. Forgiveness is choosing not to allow the pain of what happened to control your heart and your marriage. Sometimes you may have to forgive while you are still hurting. You may forgive today and feel the pain again tomorrow. Healing can take time. And remember: forgiveness and reconciliation are not exactly the same thing. Rebuilding a relationship also requires honesty, accountability, changed behaviour, and time.