Mental Load: And Why We’d All Be Thriving If We Had Wives Like Us

Episode 4: We tackle the mother of all mother issues: mental load — the invisible, relentless cognitive labour that keeps families, households, and lives running smoothly… and that women somehow still carry almost entirely alone.We go beyond the tired “men just don’t notice things” explanation (though yes, that too), and dig into the deeper systems that make mental load so stubbornly gendered.We talk about:- Why women end up carrying the mental load even in loving, progressive relationships- The difference between the default parent and the opt‑in parent (and why that single distinction explains so much)- How astonishingly successful most women would be if they had partners who managed life the way they do- Why the problem isn’t individual men so much as a culture that quietly assigns responsibility without consent- And the single, surprisingly radical thing we can do to bring down the patriarchy.Yes, we’re serious. And yes, we’re laughing.This conversation is part therapy session, part sociological deep‑dive, and part love letter to the women holding twenty tabs open in their heads at all times.Come for the validation. Stay for the jokes. Leave feeling seen, slightly furious, and maybe just a little freer.Selin's rec: Yumi Stynes Ladies, We Need To Talk | Podcast on SpotifyLinks Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onlygetsbetterpodcast Selin’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/littlefacelens Heather’s Insta: https://www.instagram.com/progression_lab Heather’s Substack: https://substack.com/@heatherpatersonwrites