Mentorship: Confronting Ego and the Fear of Growth

Why Your Ego Makes Mentorship Hard to Find   Juan and Courtney discuss why people struggle to find mentors, arguing that ego and assumptions (that mentors don't like you, are too busy, or you already know enough) keep people from asking for help even when others would gladly provide it. They note that wanting to mentor isn't the same as being the right mentor, and emphasize evaluating credibility, proof of experience, and access, sharing examples like seeking trusted peers for buying a first home and consulting doctor and pharmacist friends during COVID by asking what they personally would do. They contrast this with Courtney's IVF experience, where feeling like she was "bothering" people and hormonal stress reduced receptivity to support. Another barrier identified is fear that finding a good mentor means having to make uncomfortable changes. They conclude that you don't have to follow advice, but not asking is the bigger problem, and warn against "experts" who claim to know everything.   00:00 Career Blind Spot Intro 00:28 Why Mentors Feel Hard 00:51 Ego and Being Dadded 03:17 Finding Credible Help 06:13 Asking for Support IVF 08:26 Mentorship Means Change 09:04 How I Seek Advice 10:31 Call to Action Wrap Up