Mom Guilt is REAL

00:53 - Welcome to Tea with Meek & Nique! Today, we’re sipping on some delicious mango and ginger tea, while we discuss our tea-topic of mom guilt. Three questions are going to drive our conversation, which are: What gives you that feeling? How do you deal with it? And, what did you discover though experiencing mom guilt?    01:30 - Meek and Nique share how relevant mom guilt is for them all the time. We define it as something that makes you feel bad about not doing your motherly duties, because you’re doing something else. Sometimes, those other things can be what makes you happy, but also just other responsibilities that you have to take care of!    03:00 - Meka talks about her recent bouts of mom guilt, because she’s at work and isn’t able to take or pick up her son from preschool. Monique can relate to this as she starts to take the leap into pursuing her career, especially because she’s been a stay-at-home mama for about five years. Yoga is Monique’s calling and she’s exploring opening her own studio! As part of this, she attended a retreat that happened at the same time as the first day of school.    07:41 - So, how do we deal with the mom guilt? Sometimes, you just have to tell yourself that you’re a good mom, you’re doing enough, and you’re just going to do it! When you take care of yourself, you can pour even more love and energy into your family. Nique talks about how she will sit with those awful and uncomfortable feelings sometimes to figure out why she’s feeling that way. She’s had to adjust her definition of motherhood - does it mean being there for every single moment? Is that realistic and practical, especially when she’s trying to build herself up and create her career?   12:50 - Do what you love, because you’ll feel so much better when you’re with your family. Go do that hobby! Remember to pursue self care! Chase a new career! Take a leap of faith, set the example for your kids, and follow your passion. (Tag us and let us know what you’re doing so we can support you in all your parental greatness)!   14:39 - What have we discovered through experiencing mom guilt? Meek is honest - she’s discovered that mom guilt is crap and all that negativity brings her down. Nique has found a way to lean into her husband for a reality check, where he reminds her of how much she does for the family. Your kids and your partner can see you being the amazing parent that you are, so let them be your encouragement when you need a boost.    18:12 - “I’m in love with getting out of my way. I’m in love with that new mindset.”   19:22 - This is a conversation and we want to hear from you! Tag us and let us know how you overcome your mom guilt. We want to see you shining and celebrate our community of amazing mamas. We’re also always open to some tea recommendations….   20:25 - To close out, it’s time for Drive Tracks! Meka has been listening to “What About Your Friends” by TLC in her car because she’s feeling that ‘90s jam right now. Nique got into the HBO show Pretty Little Liars and the intro song - “Cold Little Heart” by Michael Kiwanuka - is sooooo good. Give these tracks a listen and let us know what you’re listening to around town.  ----- Make sure to follow Meek and Nique on social media!  Meka’s blog is Hanging with the Harrells and her instagram is @xomekaharrell. Nique can be found at White Coat Wifey and followed at @whitecoatwifey! Make sure to follow the show at @teawithmeekandnique on Insta to see behind-the-scenes and more content, say hello to your fearless hosts at meekandnique.com,  and tune in for the next episode!