Most People Don't Want the Real You (And That's the Problem)

When people say they want to know you, they often mean they want to know the version of you that they are most comfortable with. In this episode, Stacey explores the gap between authenticity and comfort. What we reveal, what we hold back, and why intimacy often requires more friction than we're willing to tolerate. Because somewhere along the way, we learned that showing up fully was a risk not worth taking.     Mentioned in this episode: Ryan Dunlap - Former hostage negotiator and founder of Conflictish. Check him out on Instagram or YouTube Book: "How to Untie a Balloon" by Ryan Dunlap     🗳️ Suggest a topic for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/