MWM Episode 240: What's the Conversation You're Avoiding?

Send us Fan MailThe Core QuestionWhat conversation has been sitting in the back of your mind, taking up mental bandwidth?Why We Avoid ConversationsHoping it will just go awayFear of conflict or discomfortLack of preparationEmotional reactivityThe Two Negative Outcomes of DelayOption 1: Extended delayPhysical effects: not sleeping, overthinkingBuilds up exhaustionWhen you finally have it, you're depletedOption 2: React without preparationHave it while angry or unpreparedDon't get the outcome you wantDamages the relationshipThe One ExceptionPermission to delay: If you are so emotional that you can't have the conversation without keeping your emotions in check, take processing time. Otherwise, have it early.The Action StepIdentify the conversation you've been avoidingSet a time: "I'm doing this in two hours"Put a little thought into itGet it doneIt's not going anywhere (unless they get hit by a bus - and then you'll regret not having it)