Navigating Divorce & Finding Yourself on the Other Side with Allison Kahler

Divorce touches almost half of all marriages, and yet almost everyone who goes through it feels completely alone. That paradox is exactly what Allison Kahler set out to change.Allison is an Executive Coach and Founder of The D Tales Podcast - a podcast dedicated to sharing real divorce stories and expert insights for anyone contemplating a split, navigating the process, or rebuilding life on the other side. Before she ever hit record, she spent years in management consulting, then interviewed over 50 people anonymously about their own experiences with divorce. What kept surfacing across all of it: the hardest part isn’t the legal process. It’s everything that happens before and after.I got to know Allison over recent months and felt an immediate kinship. She was also gracious enough to have me on The D Tales Podcast (link in the show notes - go listen here!), and this conversation picks up where that one left off.We went deep on what it actually feels like to sit inside a marriage that isn’t working - the years of quiet questioning before a single word gets said out loud, the shame that makes people white-knuckle through it alone, and the well-meaning things friends say that land all wrong. Allison is also a self-proclaimed data nerd, so she shares what the research and data keep showing: that life on the other side is almost always better than people could imagine. .Whether this episode finds you in the middle of a hard season in your relationship, supporting someone you love through one, or simply trying to understand an experience that’s far more common than we talk about - this conversation is an honest one.In This Episode We Explore:* Why the contemplation phase - not the legal process - is the hardest part for most people navigating divorce* The three things well-meaning friends say that don’t help, and what actually does* What the data and the stories both keep showing about life on the other side of divorce* The difference between solitude and loneliness, and why you can feel more alone inside a marriage than living on your own* How nervous system regulation (or the lack of it) shapes the decisions we make in our most pivotal moments* What rebuilding actually looks like: new cities, new careers, new relationships with yourselfConnect with Allison Kahler:* The D Tales Podcast: https://www.thedtalespodcast.com/* Instagram (The D Tales Podcast): https://www.instagram.com/thedtalespodcast* Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/allisonjkahler* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisonkahler/* Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thedtalespodcast* Website: https://www.allisonkahler.com/Connect with me, Ashley Logan:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleydlogan Website: https://ashleydlogan.comSubstack: https://substack.com/@ashleydlogan Get full access to Ashes to Ashley at ashleydlogan.substack.com/subscribe