never argue with a man for free

youtube episode: https://youtu.be/bJ1Ow4RFuW4the irony of me filming this a week before that sh*k video oop at least you know i practice what i preach heheyou life and your journey is for you to own. other people can disagree and say you're problematic but even then, no one is going to be strong-armed into a better version of themselves. even the most problematic people from your point of view need space to evolve and work through being a product of their environment and conditioning so they can take accountability and choose to change. doesn't mean its my or your responsibility to hold their hand through it, its just that arguing usually exacerbates a problem more than it provides a resolve. do you want to be right or happy???00:0001:37 - define the terms01:43 - never argue with a MAN for free03:00 - what is love04:23 - love exists as an action - separate to the culture of romance05:10 - ‘never’05:38 - ‘free’06:31 - ‘argue’ - argument vs conversation07:58 - types of communicationdiscourse, dialogue, debate, diatribe09:14 - engaging in bad faith10:41 - value12:41 - walking away or changing the dynamic13:25 - argument loop13:56 - let them yap14:10 - how to get out of an argument with your dignity in tact15:03 - break the pattern today or the loop will continue tomorrow15:42 - habit stacking16:03 - changing response to triggers16:43 - don't underestimate how important your validation is to other people15:57 - people treat you with the grace they treat themselves19:06 - fight or flight activation19:46 - witholding your response20:25 - being demure and mindful but not defensive21:38 - hypocognition23:06 - bracketing23:53 - accept that some relationships are just limited25:29 - you are not responsible for changing other people’s perception of reality if they aren’t ready26:39 - reclaim and redirect your energy27:57 - represent yourself rather than waiting for permission28:35 - presenting something vs arguing about it29:02 - trying to present new ideas/perspectives30:43 - when they start a fight with you because they can’t handle their reaction to what you said30:57 - when arguing might be beneficial32:00 - when i might care what people think33:47 - daily affirmations34:17 - make sure you have a life34:25 - pre-training so when you are triggered you are less likley to take the bait