No One Ever Regrets Leaving: Understanding Coercive Control, Gaslighting and the Courageous Path to Healing after Domestic Abuse with A.E. Lee

In this profoundly moving episode of The Ecology of Intimacy, I sit down with author, educator, and domestic violence advocate A.E. Lee, whose memoir One of the Lucky Ones tells the story of surviving years of coercive control and intimate partner violence. Together we explore the hidden realities of abusive relationships that so often go unseen. Amanda shares how abuse rarely begins with violence, but with a gradual erosion of confidence, isolation, gaslighting, and fear that leaves even the strongest women questioning their own reality. We discuss why leaving is often the most dangerous time, why survivors are so frequently disbelieved, the failures of the justice system, and the lasting impact of trauma on both mothers and children. Most importantly, this conversation offers hope. Amanda shares what healing has looked like, how she learned to trust again, and why no survivor should ever have to navigate this journey alone. Whether you've experienced abuse yourself, love someone who has, or simply want to better understand the complexities of coercive control, this is an essential conversation about compassion, courage, and the possibility of life after survival.   Content Note: This episode discusses domestic and intimate partner violence and may be distressing for some listeners. Please listen with care.   === GUEST LINKS: Website: https://authoraelee.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authoraelee/  Book: https://authoraelee.com/books/one-of-the-lucky-ones/  === VILATES •Website: https://www.vilates.com/       •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/    •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB      •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980      === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.