No One Met Him But Us: Niky Hamilton on Full Term Stillbirth and the Truth About a Grief the World Doesn't Understand

 No One Met Him But Us: Niky Hamilton on Full Term Stillbirth and the Truth About a Grief the World Doesn't Understand In this episode I'm joined by Niky Hamilton, women's resilience coach, physiotherapist of over 20 years, and author of Selfish Leadership: How to Lead Without Losing Yourself. Niky shares the story of her son Baxter, stillborn in February 2014, and the twelve years since that have taken her from physiotherapy and event management into coaching women through grief, burnout, and the moments life doesn't go to plan. We talk about the difference between living in grief and living with grief, the strange isolation of a loss nobody else met, what it's like for partners who "can't fix it," and the physics of energy that helped Niky make sense of where Baxter's presence went. It's an honest, moving conversation about permission, identity, and rebuilding a life that looks nothing like the one you planned. We cover: The moment Niky and her husband Glenn found out there was no heartbeat, and the 24 hours they had with BaxterWhy "everything happens for a reason" is the last thing to say to someone grieving, and what to say insteadThe three phases of grief Niky's identified through her own experience and coaching practiceBuilding emotional capacity, and why joy and grief can sit on the same plateHow Niky's slow, second wave of grief (through IVF and an unsuccessful adoption process) differed from the "atomic bomb" of Baxter's deathBaxter's legacy, and how it shows up in every woman Niky coachesConnect with Niky: Website: https://nikyhamilton.com/Insta: https://www.instagram.com/niky.hamilton/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikyhamilton/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/niky-hamilton/My book:https://nikyhamilton.com/selfishleadershipBioNiky Hamilton is a resilience speaker, coach, author and retreat facilitator who helps women and leaders navigate life’s setbacks and rise into stronger self-leadership.Originally trained as a physiotherapist, Niky built a successful physiotherapy practice on the Sunshine Coast, growing a team of 14 women and developing a deep passion for leadership and team culture.Her life took an unexpected turn when she experienced the devastating loss of her son. In the quiet aftermath of grief, where brain fog, exhaustion and overwhelming emotions often live, Niky began a journey of deep personal transformation.Through further training in leadership, coaching, mindfulness and emotional resilience, she developed powerful tools to help others navigate life when everything changes.Today Niky speaks, coaches and facilitates retreats that help people manage emotions, build resilience, lead themselves with courage and transform life’s hardest moments into clarity, strength and direction.Her message is simple yet powerful: resilience isn’t about bouncing back, it’s about rising into who you are becoming.  If this episode has affected you If you've been affected by stillbirth or the death of a baby, support is available. Sands (stillbirth and neonatal death charity): 0808 164 3332, [email protected] Tommy's (midwife-led pregnancy and baby loss helpline): 0800 0147 800, [email protected]  About Fran Fran Willoughby is an evidential medium, Reiki practitioner and intuitive coach, and the host of The Power of the Truth. Through Mojo Motivator she offers mediumship readings, oracle card readings, Reiki healing and coaching, helping people find clarity, connection and confidence through life's biggest transitions. Find out more or book a session at www.mojo-motivator.com.  Send us Fan MailIf you have a story that you think would be good for the podcast, please do get in touch by emailing [email protected].