No, You Aren’t The Only Common Denominator In All Of Your “Failed” Relationships

Build a stronger, more connected relationship with Paired⁠ for 25% off a yearly plan plus a 7-day free trial.⁠ @pairedapp ⁠ ."The common denominator in all my failed relationships is me… so I must be the problem.”It sounds logical. It’s also massively biased.In this episod, I break down why that conclusion doesn’t hold up, the two other common denominators you’re ignoring (hint: people and a broken world), and the missing data point that changes everything: you don’t actually know your “relationship success rate” compared to anyone else—because you only see your failures, not theirs.I talk about:why hurt is inevitable in real relationshipswhy repair is the real definition of “safe”how confirmation bias and minimization distort your self-imagewhy a relationship ending ≠ a relationship “failing”the “home runs vs at-bats” analogy that makes this click fastIf you’ve been using relationships as evidence that you’re unlovable or broken—this is a necessary reset.If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperNext Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.About me:I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety.Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles.😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is BurningDisclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.But I do care.