Nobody Told Me: It Wasn’t My Fault

Who is responsible for our obesity?Is it our parents? Genetics? The food we grew up eating? Diet culture? Trauma? Doctors? Our environment?Or is it us?In this episode of The Bari Chronicles, Damo and Tash tackle one of the most uncomfortable questions in the obesity and metabolic surgery conversation: How did I actually get here, and who is responsible?Growing up surrounded by diet culture, food rules, shame and the constant message that weight was something you simply needed to control, both Damo and Tash spent years believing their bodies were somehow a personal failure.But obesity is far more complicated than that.They talk openly about genetics, childhood experiences, emotional eating, restrictive dieting, the idea of “good” and “bad” foods, and what happens when you spend years blaming yourself for something you never fully understood.They also explore an important distinction:There is a difference between blame and responsibility.We may not be able to identify one person, decision or moment that caused obesity. And metabolic surgery, medication or weight loss doesn't necessarily mean obesity has been permanently “fixed”.But we can decide what happens next.This is a conversation about letting go of shame, accepting the body you have, finding healthcare professionals who actually listen, and taking agency over your health without turning that responsibility into another reason to punish yourself.Because maybe the most important question isn't:“Whose fault is it?”Maybe it's:“What am I going to do from here?”