EPISODE · Apr 20, 2026 · 41 MIN
Nobody Wants to Pay the Cost | Ep 6 (Pt 2) | Better Together
from Dear Son, · host Derek Johns
Counting the Cost: Crime, Faith, Parenting, and the Price of Not SurrenderingIn this episode of Better Together, the hosts discuss “counting the cost” across crime, spirituality, parenting, work, and relationships. Joe T explains that before prison, crime felt “lawful” and consequence-free because of his environment, but prison revealed how it was costing him everything. They contrast religious ritual with genuine spiritual formation, emphasizing exposure, accountability, and surrender, including how faith is tested during tragedy like a child’s medical crisis. The conversation also covers the danger of being convinced of yourself, how permissive parenting can stem from resenting structure, and the need to teach consequences. They share personal examples of counting the cost: moving family from the East Coast to Dubai, entrepreneurial risks versus corporate regret, success through content creation, and relationship decisions, ending with a call for viewers to reflect on what something is costing them and what it will cost.00:00 Counting Crime Costs00:49 Car Lesson on Value02:06 Prison Reality Check02:25 Ritual vs Relationship05:36 Learning Surrender09:43 God Knows My Heart10:15 Echo Chambers and Pride12:57 Parenting and Boundaries16:46 Paying the Cost Daily19:21 Marriage Covenant Costs21:44 When Commitment Becomes Harm24:26 Mortgage Analogy for Growth26:21 Faith Tested by Loss27:54 Moving Away for Family31:48 Entrepreneurship vs Corporate34:10 Time Wealth and Presence36:07 TikTok Leap of Faith37:50 Calling Off Engagement Regret40:22 Community Challenge Wrap Up#fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas:“What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons”“How to Be a Better Father”“Father Son Relationship Advice”“Mistakes Fathers Make”“Lessons Every Man Should Learn”Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Shop Father Figure: https://www.f2apparel.store/Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Follow Joe T: https://instagram.com/bakeriii Follow Reggie: https://instagram.com/fatherfigureapparelAlso, if you've made it this far, don't forget to:1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications,3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and5. share this content with someone who needs it.The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show Love Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishaj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copyLet’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma3. Help through telling stories of it all“Better Man. Better Father.”The Dear Son, Network ®Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Counting the Cost: Crime, Faith, Parenting, and the Price of Not Surrendering In this episode of Better Together, the hosts discuss “counting the cost” across crime, spirituality, parenting, work, and relationships. Joe T explains that before prison, crime felt “lawful” and consequence-free because of his environment, but prison revealed how it was costing him everything. They contrast religious ritual with genuine spiritual formation, emphasizing exposure, accountability, and surrender, including how faith is tested during tragedy like a child’s medical crisis. The conversation also covers the danger of being convinced of yourself, how permissive parenting can stem from resenting structure, and the need to teach consequences. They share personal examples of counting the cost: moving family from the East Coast to Dubai, entrepreneurial risks versus corporate regret, success through content creation, and relationship decisions, ending with a call for viewers to reflect on what something is costing them and what it will cost. 00:00 Counting Crime Costs 00:49 Car Lesson on Value 02:06 Prison Reality Check 02:25 Ritual vs Relationship 05:36 Learning Surrender 09:43 God Knows My Heart 10:15 Echo Chambers and Pride 12:57 Parenting and Boundaries 16:46 Paying the Cost Daily 19:21 Marriage Covenant Costs 21:44 When Commitment Becomes Harm 24:26 Mortgage Analogy for Growth 26:21 Faith Tested by Loss 27:54 Moving Away for Family 31:48 Entrepreneurship vs Corporate 34:10 Time Wealth and Presence 36:07 TikTok Leap of Faith 37:50 Calling Off Engagement Regret 40:22 Community Challenge Wrap Up #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Shop Father Figure: https://www.f2apparel.store/ Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Follow Joe T: https://instagram.com/bakeriii Follow Reggie: https://instagram.com/fatherfigureapparel Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show Love Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishaj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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