Not a Step Backward: Redefining Independence as We Age

Welcome back to Unfiltered Resilience.Today, I want to talk about something universal yet rarely explored — aging, and what it means to age with a disability. For many of us, independence isn’t just a goal; it’s part of who we are. But as our bodies change, that definition begins to shift.In this episode, I reflect on how assistive devices — like walkers and wheelchairs — are often misunderstood as symbols of limitation, when in truth, they can be tools of freedom. I share stories from my own life, from my days at the Ann Carlson School to the quiet rebellions that shaped how I see mobility and independence today.We’ll explore what happens when parents, caregivers, and even we ourselves equate “doing it alone” with strength — and how letting go of that idea can actually open the door to more control, confidence, and peace.Aging isn’t a step backward. It’s a step toward wisdom, toward grace, and toward redefining what freedom looks like. Because real independence isn’t about doing everything on your own — it’s about knowing when to ask for help and having the courage to embrace change.If you have stories or reflections about aging with a disability, I’d love to hear from you. Write to me at [email protected].