Not All Therapists Are Safe

Therapy can be one of the most vulnerable spaces a person ever enters.Which is why discernment matters.In this episode of Just Listen to Me, Julia explores an uncomfortable but important truth:not all therapists are emotionally safe.Drawing from attachment science, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and years of clinical experience working with couples, this conversation looks at the red flags people often miss when choosing a therapist — including narcissistic dynamics, emotional control disguised as expertise, dependency in therapy relationships, and the difference between healthy therapeutic challenge and emotional intrusion.Topics explored include:• The “expert trap” in therapy• Why charisma is not the same as safety• The importance of a secure base• Dependency disguised as healing• Unsafe dynamics in couples therapy• Why some therapy environments prioritise volume over integrity• The role of repair, humility, and emotional safety in ethical practiceThis is not a conversation designed to create fear around therapy.It is a conversation about discernment.Because safe therapy should help you feel more connected to yourself — not further away from who you are.If this episode resonates with you, please consider following, rating, or sharing the podcast.You’re not broken.Sometimes healing begins when we finally enter spaces where we no longer have to abandon ourselves to stay connected.