Nre blows with only D on the table

The porn phase is great but doesn't last. After is the real risk taking and where the work is. If there is enough connection for me in other areas aside from good sex I'm rolling up my sleeves and doing the work- mine. Working on my responding rather than reacting really taking long, hard looks in the mirror. Clearly I get lost in a disappointing thought and my avoidant makes an appearance.