Over 60 and More Erotic Than Ever

It’s a big fat cultural lie that women hit a sexual peak in their 20s or 30s and then decline. The reality for many women post-menopause is the opposite: sovereignty, freedom from giving a f*ck, deeper self-knowledge, and a richer relationship with pleasure. In this episode, we sit down with Lisa LaCroix — ommunication and intimacy muse, and competitive ballroom dancer. She embodies “Erotic High Priestess” and makes the case that that is the missing archetype between Mother and Crone, challenging the idea that post-menopausal women are past their prime. Lisa shares freely about what it was like re-entering the dating scene in her 50s and how she reclaimed her eroticism after motherhood. Intriguingly, she also compares the cultural focus on the “orgasm gap” to the 1980s Power Suit. In her opinion, trying to give women more orgasms is just co-opting the male model of sexuality instead of expanding into what feminine pleasure actually is. Finally, we get into what younger women can learn from this conversation right now. So women of all ages are not going to want to miss this episode! Lisa LaCroix's links: - Coaching & workshops: https://www.lisalacroix.com/ - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Lisa_LaCroix - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_lacroix - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabl/ - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SPUPodcast/ ♥️ Temple of Yes Where trusting yourself creates the intimacy and aliveness you desire. The application process includes a 30 min call with Kari or Nicholette to make sure the retreat is the right fit for you, and you're the right fit for the retreat. Come ask all your questions and figure out if it's a Yes! https://www.eroticreclamation.com/temple-of-yes ♥️ Chapter Timestamps 0:00 — Lisa LaCroix on aging, eroticism, and post-menopausal liberation 2:51 — Lisa’s arc: from homeschooling mother to ballroom dancer at 50 to divorce at 52 8:27 — What Lisa wants women in their late 30s and early 40s to know 10:34 — The four pillars of artful aging: optimization, reinvention, rebranding, and gracious acceptance 16:17 — The freedom of post-menopause: you finally aren’t performing 20:24 — The missing archetype: “Maiden, Mother, and Crone” needs an Erotic High Priestess between 50 and 70 25:58 — Nicholette’s journey of stepping into submission in her mid-40s 28:36 — Unveiling self vs. seeking self: discovering what was always there vs frantically looking for what’s missing 34:02 — What women have lost by only knowing male-bodied sexuality, and what becomes possible when feminine pleasure leads 39:03 — What men don’t know about feminine pleasure 44:06 — More orgasms isn’t the answer to women’s sexual liberation 46:03 — Lisa’s experience at the Temple of Yes, and why permission to want what you actually want is so needed and so rare ♥️ Podcasts to listen to next: What is Energetic Sex? https://eroticreclamation.substack.com/p/what-is-energetic-sex Desire: Feel It, Name It, Claim It https://eroticreclamation.substack.com/p/desire-feel-it-name-it-claim-it What Romantasy Knows About Sex that Most People Don't https://eroticreclamation.substack.com/p/what-romantasy-knows-about-sex-that ♥️ Enjoying Erotic Reclamation? Leave a 5-star review to help our message spread! ♥️ Erotic Reclamation is where sex-positive education meets somatic, trauma-informed practice. We're Nicholette Routhier and Kari Kinkead: certified embodiment facilitators, kink priestesses, relationship coaches, and freaky guides for anyone ready to stop hiding their desire and start basking in it. Our approach goes beyond what you’ll typically find at sex-positive workshops and play parties. We focus on: - Embodied exploration of claiming your desires, energetic eroticism, power play, conflict repair, and so much more - Meeting shame with tenderness, while reconnecting to your body's erotic intelligence - Trauma-informed containers that prioritize nervous system safety, transparent communication, and full-body “fuck yes” consent and boundaries - Building a healthy, integrated relationship with your sexual cravings and sexual partners - Finding the kind of pleasure your body and soul has been dreaming of, but wasn’t sure really existed… Whether you're curious about how to have better intimacy, navigating a kinky awakening, or wanting to explore even wider realms of pleasure, there's a place for you here. No experience necessary, but all experience welcome. Learn more at www.eroticreclamation.com. With love ♥️ Kari & Nicholette This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit eroticreclamation.substack.com