Overcoming People Pleasing and How to Create Safety for Pleasure | Jennifer Holland | EP206

Send us Fan MailJennifer Holland, somatic coach and creator of the DRIPP methodology, joins April for a raw, expansive conversation about why real pleasure can only emerge from deep safety in the body. They explore de-armoring (releasing trauma stored in physical tissue), the difference between people-pleasing and devotion, "inner daddy" energy as a reframe of reparenting, and why so many women feel pleasure as more dangerous than pain. If you've done years of mindset work and still feel stuck in the same patterns, this episode is the somatic next layer.  In this interview, you'll learn:1. Why safety and pleasure are inseparable in the body2. What de-armoring actually is and how trauma physically lives in your tissue3. The difference between people-pleasing and true devotion (to yourself and a partner)4. How to develop "inner daddy" energy without slipping into shame or reparenting5. Why slowing down often unleashes a tsunami of unfelt emotion, and what to do with it6. How somatic touch and self-massage rewire the nervous system back into pleasure7. Why the cervix holds generational and birth trauma (and what cervical de-armoring reveals)8. Why everyone should begin a safe self-de-armoring practice at home You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in. With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️ What We Discuss:0:00 Why slowing down unleashes a tsunami of unfelt emotion 1:56 Jennifer's purpose: bringing people home to their bodies 4:56 Why so many women can't look at themselves in the mirror 6:49 How control and disconnection cause disease in the body 11:52 Inner daddy energy: a kinky reframe of reparenting 22:31 Pleasing a partner vs. devotion to yourself 30:38 Devotion, worship, and Mary Magdalene healing 33:44 The rise of yoni de-armoring and why women are seeking it 38:50 What de-armoring actually is (and what it isn't) 44:54 How to begin a self-de-armoring practice at home 46:58 Cervical armor, generational trauma, and unlocking new pleasure 55:08 Where to find Jennifer (Drip retreat, online classes, 1:1 work) 58:19 Closing wisdom: trust the inner voice you abandoned Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow