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Send us Fan MailThis is a real love story. Not the kind that skips the hard parts, but the kind that goes through them and comes out the other side more in love than ever. In this episode, April and Chad sit down with two of their closest friends, Carrie and Chad Welter, who are about to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary. Carrie and Chad Welter take us through the full arc: the easy, adventurous early years as traveling nurses falling in love across cities; the slow erosion of connection that came with becoming parents, working night shifts in a pediatric ICU, and carrying stress neither of them had the tools to process; the resentment, the stonewalling, the seasons where they were two ships passing in the night; and the pivotal moments that finally cracked things open. A sacred night Carrie created almost from desperation. A traumatic event at work that broke Chad Welter wide open. Meditation. Yoga. A cat that turned out to be a barometer for everything wrong in the house. Male friendship. And the slow, unglamorous, completely worth-it work of choosing each other again. Carrie says she is more in love with her husband now than she has ever been. This episode is about how that becomes possible, and what it costs to get there. In this interview, you'll learn: •       Why the thing you keep fighting about is almost never the real issue, and what the real issue usually is•       How working in a high-trauma medical environment creates compassion fatigue that quietly destroys intimacy at home•       Why men repeat the exact patterns they resented in their own fathers, and what it takes to finally break that cycle•       What stonewalling does to a relationship over years, and why one partner's courage to confront it is often what saves it•       How a single intentional evening, created as a kind of Hail Mary, can shift the entire trajectory of a marriage•       Why meditation did what years of therapy, projects, and avoidance could not, and how quickly the body responds•       What male friendship and community actually does for a marriage, and why so many men are starving for it without knowing it•       How to recognize when your partner is growing and thriving while you are standing still, and what that fear can motivate•       Why the cocoon stage of a relationship, the messy, unglamorous middle, is where the real transformation actually happens•       What it means to love yourself unconditionally first, and why that is the only foundation real partnership can be built on•       How the marker of a healthy relationship is not the absence of conflict, but whether this person makes you want to become your best self•       What it looks like to fall back in love with someone you almost lost, after 20 years and everything in between You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in. With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️ What We Discuss: 0:00 — Carrie's Hail Mary night: showing him who she was becoming0:16 — Chad Welter on meditation: how it broke him out of fight or flight long enough to be present0:34 — Welcome to Safe to Love | April introduces Carrie and Chad Welter2:31 — Where the tension started: a cat, a barometer, and a home full of stress4:32 — Chad Welter on the shame of knowing he was part of the problem7:46 — Why owning guilt is often the first real catalyst for change in a man9:43 — How they met: traveling nurses, Denver snowboards, and a leather jacket14:06 — Which one of them knew first, and the love notes hidden all over the apartment17:08 — A surprise pregnancy, a glacier proposal, and a whole body yes20:00 — New parents, night shifts, and two ships passing in the night21:54 — When the patterns you watched your father live start showing up in your own marriage24:17 — The hidden cost of compartmentalizing empathy in a trauma unit27:13 — Carrie goes back to school, finds herself, and starts demanding different conversations30:32 — Why one partner's courage to say "this has to change" is often what saves the relationship32:21 — The broken shutter, the screaming, and the moment Carrie knew she had reached her limit34:01 — The Hail Mary night: ritual, vulnerability, and the shift that followed35:23 — A traumatic death at work, Carrie showing up completely, and the start of real tools37:48 — Meditation, yoga, and the nervous system finally learning how to slow down38:56 — The cat comes to a head: realizing the animal was never the real issue41:08 — Chad Welter watches Carrie thrive and realizes he is being left behind43:20 — Surgery, recovery, male friendship, and the community he didn't know he was missing47:42 — The after-dinner walk: how getting outside together changed their conversations49:06 — 20 years, a second honeymoon feeling, and falling in love all over again52:09 — Relationships have seasons: how to be in the hard one without losing yourself56:10 — Leaning into the scary parts is what unlocks the joy57:19 — Why going through it together builds something you cannot find if you start over1:00:00 — April on the divorce years, the Airbnb, and what this friendship has meant1:02:45 — Two couples, similar seasons, two very different outcomes: lean into your truth1:03:35 — Closing advice: keep showing up, have the hard conversations, trust the butterflySupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailThere is a reason so many men stop dating, ghost after great dates, or avoid intimacy altogether. It is not a lack of desire. It is a fear so loaded with shame that most men would rather disappear than face it. This episode is raw and vulnerable, and you can feel it in Chad's energy - and the numerous technical glitches that show up, even the computers were feeling it. It's not a fun conversation to have, but for a lot of men, it's the most important one yet. In this episode, Chad sits down with UK-based sex and intimacy coach Alex Gear to talk about one of the most common and least discussed issues in men's sexual health: performance anxiety and what the industry calls premature ejaculation. Together they unpack where the fear actually comes from, why confidence alone cannot fix it, how the pressure men put on themselves to perform is the very thing preventing the experience they want, and why resolving this one issue ripples out into every area of a man's life. This one is for every man who has ever avoided something he wanted because he was afraid of what might happen if it went well. In this interview, you'll learn: •       Why “premature ejaculation” is a misleading term and why there is no correct duration for sex•       How porn, locker room culture, and mainstream media created a performance standard no real sex life can meet - and no one even really wants!•       Why confidence-building techniques can paper over fear but never actually remove it•       How the fear underneath performance anxiety is almost always the same core wound: I am not good enough•       Why men ghost after great dates, and why it has nothing to do with not being interested•       How the shame around this issue keeps men suffering alone and avoiding not just sex but connection, dating, and relationships•       Why trying to make your partner orgasm from a place of anxiety almost guarantees she won’t•       What the orgasm gap actually reveals about men’s fear of failure rather than indifference to their partner’s pleasure•       What it looks like on the other side: intimacy where time and space disappear and presence replaces performance•       Why this work is not just for men who feel broken but for any man who wants more from his intimate life You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in. With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️ What We Discuss: 0:00 — The fear underneath premature ejaculation: I don’t know if I’m good enough0:38 — Welcome to Safe to Love | Introducing Alex Gear, sex and intimacy coach1:10 — Why “premature ejaculation” is a loaded term and what language actually serves men better3:41 — How porn and mainstream media wrote the rulebook for men’s sexual identity8:23 — Why every guy’s dream is control, and why the obsession with duration gets in the way10:05 — Neither partner knows what the other wants, and nobody is asking12:29 — Why confidence is not the fix: papering over fear versus removing it14:52 — It is not a fear of sex. It is a fear of not being good enough16:02 — How performance anxiety cascades into avoidance of emotional vulnerability and relationships19:10 — How social media pile-ons weaponize sexual performance to assassinate men’s character23:52 — Why so many men have stopped dating entirely and why you didn’t hear back from him after a great date29:21 — Suffering in isolation: why men will not admit this to other men32:29 — The Orgasm Gap34:17 — Why desperately trying to make her orgasm is exactly what prevents it36:46 — When men like Clavicular say they don’t care if she comes: protection mechanism, not indifference40:04 — Alex’s four to six week program42:21 — What early results actually look like: removing fear so the real work can begin44:35 — This work is not just for men who feel broken. It is for any man who wants more45:54 — How confidence in the bedroom becomes confidence everywhere46:50 — What safe, deep sexual intimacy actually feels like on the other side of this work49:50 — Alex’s closing message: love is available for everyone. See your own value. Follow Alex on Instagram  |  https://www.instagram.com/intimacyanxietyalexBook a call on Alex's Website  |  https://www.alex-gear.comSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Chad and April sit down with human design coach Natalie Pearce, the same coach who helped them navigate a pivotal turning point in their own relationship. Natalie breaks down what human design actually is, why it's less a belief system and more an invitation to experiment, and how understanding your own wiring (and your partner's) can completely change the way you show up for each other. Then things get personal: Natalie pulls up Chad and April's actual charts live, on camera, and walks through the real differences driving some of their most repeated dynamics, from busyness and pressure to communication styles and self-worth. If you've ever felt like your partner just doesn't get you, or wondered why the same argument keeps resurfacing in a slightly different form, this episode offers a new lens, and a lot of relief. In this interview, you'll learn: •       What human design is and why it's best approached as an experiment, not a belief system•       Why an emotional partner asking a non-emotional partner to "meet them emotionally" almost never works, and what to do instead•       How to tell the difference between your true nature (self) and the conditioning you've absorbed from others (not self)•       Why waiting 24 hours (or even 7 days) before responding to a big emotional decision can change everything•       How couples who feel like they're "speaking different languages" can finally understand why•       Why explaining your nature to your partner isn't making excuses, it's making room for understanding•       How undefined energy centers cause you to amplify other people's emotions, stress, or mental noise as if it were your own•       Why some people are wired to be naturally busy and energized by it, while others burn out trying to keep up•       What it means to have a defined heart center versus an undefined one, and how that shapes self-worth in a relationship•       Why opposites attract in relationships, and what it takes to make that dynamic work long term instead of losing yourself in it•       How to recognize when you're trying to prove yourself to your partner, and why that pattern often goes unnoticed•       What it looks like to take radical accountability for your nature instead of using it as an excuse You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in. With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️ What We Discuss: 0:00 — Why an emotional person can never get what they need from a non-emotional partner0:25 — Welcome to Safe to Love | Introducing Natalie Pearce and human design1:25 — What human design actually is (and the mystical origin story behind it)2:31 — The four basic human design types, explained simply6:33 — How often couples actually bring human design into their relationship work7:18 — Is there a human design version of "these signs shouldn't date"?9:02 — Why human design is an invitation to experiment, not a religion10:14 — The biggest shift Natalie made once she started living by her own design11:39 — Self vs. not self: the framework that changes how you see your own reactions16:10 — The man who stared at the exit sign at his own wedding17:08 — How Natalie actually works with couples, not by telling them who to be20:14 — Why the emotional person's needs feel unmet, and why that's not their partner's fault23:37 — "It's not an excuse, it's an explanation": reframing nature instead of blaming it28:07 — Why the undefined partner feels the emotional wave even stronger than the emotional one29:14 — Chad's undefined head and mind: why his thoughts feel so loud, and why most of it isn't even his35:23 — Natalie reads Chad and April's charts live for the first time38:17 — April's struggle channel and why Chad can never fully "fix" it39:31 — Defined root vs. undefined root: who actually owns the stress in the room43:42 — The channel of busyness and charisma: why Chad can't stop filling his calendar50:00 — Defined throat vs. undefined throat: why April's voice changes depending on who's in the room53:29 — Defined heart vs. undefined heart: where self-worth actually comes from1:01:56 — Learning to tell the difference between your own voice and someone else's inside your head1:04:41 — Role models explained: April the Opportunist and Chad the Hermit1:13:15 — Natalie's services, where to find her, and her grief support work1:16:16 — Final advice: stop buying your own bullshit Follow Natalie on FB and IG @newnormal.bydesign Email: [email protected] Phone: 801-726-4619 Website  Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailApril thought a marriage with no fighting was the goal. What she discovered was that the silence wasn't peace. It was two people slowly disappearing from each other.In this raw and deeply personal episode, Chad sits down with his partner April Benincosa to explore why avoiding hard conversations is the single fastest way to kill intimacy, and what finally happens when you stop running from them. They get honest about childhood nervous system programming, the performance of a "perfect" relationship, what it means to create real space for truth, and how one dreaded conversation led to the most connected night they'd had in months.This is not a conversation about conflict. It is a conversation about courage, and what becomes possible when two people finally decide to stop pretending.Did you know Safe to Love is also on YouTube?In this interview, you'll learn:1. Why the absence of conflict in a relationship is often a warning sign, not a green flag2. How the stories your brain tells during conflict are almost always worse than reality3. Why you have already been suffering long before the hard conversation actually happens4. How childhood nervous system wiring turns necessary conversations into felt threats5. What "creating space" actually means in practice and why rushed conversations almost always go wrong6. Why curiosity is impossible when your nervous system is in threat mode and what to do about it7. How performing a perfect relationship quietly replaces real intimacy with a shared mask8. Why the stakes feeling higher as a relationship deepens is normal and what to do with that9. What Tantra teaches about presence, authenticity, and why a real no makes a yes mean something10. How to know your own truth when you have spent years absorbing everyone else's11. Why conflict is often just intimacy that ran out of room and what that means for repairYou are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in.With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss:0:00 — The story your brain tells you during conflict (and why it's almost never true)0:34 — Welcome to Safe to Love | Introducing April Benincosa2:05 — The post that started it all: not having hard conversations kills intimacy2:52 — The conversation April had been rehearsing alone for weeks4:08 — Why avoidance hurts more than the conversation ever does4:39 — Creating space: why tired, rushed, and empty-cup conversations go wrong6:53 — What spaciousness actually means and why the feminine needs it to flourish8:06 — Spiritual bypassing, wanting joy without doing the dishes8:30 — April's childhood nervous system: explosive mom, absent dad, and a freeze response still unwinding10:12 — How quality time gets hijacked by task mode and what that costs a relationship12:03 — Creativity, curiosity, and the drain that happens when life gets full13:54 — Why safety is a prerequisite for curiosity in relationships15:21 — The stories we tell about our relationship when conflict arrives17:16 — Why the stories we avoid speaking out loud keep us suffering alone20:21 — Why hard conversations get harder as the relationship deepens23:34 — The irony of performing your best self upfront and what it costs later26:00 — Where April learned to perform29:09 — A 15-year marriage, a decade of wanting to leave, and the success the mask made possible30:43 — Two people performing a power couple and the quiet loneliness inside it31:55 — What April discovered when she was asked about her needs for the first time33:19 — Falling back into old patterns under stress and what it means to rebuild from an embodied place36:00 — What Tantra teaches about presence, realness, and why a no makes a yes sacred38:20 — Sexual intimacy, the female orgasm, and why presence is the only path there40:28 — If you don't have a no, your yes doesn't mean anything41:33 — Is it harder to share your truth or hear your partner's?45:03 — Spaciousness for yourself: knowing your own truth before you can speak it46:24 — April's closing message: have the hard conversations. They are never as bad as you made them.Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we sit down with April’s mentor Mariposa to explore what grief really is, why our culture is so ill-equipped to support it, and how learning to honor loss — instead of avoid it — is the only real path to opening your heart for love again. This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt stuck after heartbreak, afraid to trust again, or ashamed of still caring about someone they lost. Discover how to hold space for grief in relationships, why rushing to recover actually keeps you trapped, and how sacred practices from indigenous traditions can help you move through loss with dignity, power, and hope — keywords: how to heal after divorce, processing grief after a breakup, how to open your heart to love again, grief in relationships, emotional healing and intimacy.Follow Mariposa on Instagram to learn more about her!In this interview, you'll learn:1. Why grief is not a weakness but a sacred teacher that shows you what you truly value2.How to hold space for your own grief without being swallowed by it3. Why one partner almost always begins grieving a relationship long before the other even knows it is ending4. What it actually means that "grief is love with nowhere to go"5. How unprocessed grief from a past relationship gets silently projected onto the next person who loves you6. Why American culture is so ill-equipped to support grief, and what other traditions do instead7. How to hold space for a grieving partner without trying to fix or rush their process8. The difference between avoiding grief and becoming consumed by it, and how to walk the middle path9. How to grieve the life you never lived, including the partner or children you never had10. Why grieving your ex inside a new relationship may actually be a sign you are finally healing11. What anger and rage have to do with grief, and when they help versus when they keep you entangled12. How to keep your heart open to love again after bitterness and heartbreak have tried to close it13. The one practice Morwenna returns to again and again when grief feels too vast to hold aloneWith Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What we discuss:00:00:31 - April introduces Morwenna and the reason grief became the topic for this episode00:01:34 - Morwenna introduces herself: guide of consciousness, ceremonialist, and how grief first found her at 2300:03:51 - Why grief in romantic relationships and the loss of a dream is so hard for the human experience00:05:31 - "Grief is love with nowhere to go": April shares her first real encounter with grief through divorce00:06:40 - The Serenity Prayer and the power of accepting what we cannot change in grief00:07:26 - Chad: how his father's suicide shaped every aspect of his life and still surfaces in unexpected ways00:08:33 - How people avoid grief out of fear they will never come out of it00:09:20 - Why grief can feel so out of control, and the human instinct to negotiate with or escape the feeling00:10:17 - The two extremes: avoidance versus being consumed, and how to create space for grief as it is00:12:33 - Grief as a teacher: how loss reveals what we did not value when we had it00:13:16 - Morwenna: actively grieving the time lost with her children as a single working mother00:13:56 - April: grieving her marriage while still inside it, and what her sister helped her see00:14:57 - Chad: being the partner who did not know the relationship was ending, and the grief gap that creates00:16:11 - Why it is nearly impossible to compare how two people grieve the same loss00:17:12 - April: crying for hours while putting on a mask before Chad came home, preparing herself for what she knew was coming00:19:19 - How to hold space for a grieving partner: Morwenna's guidance for couples00:21:51 - The Serenity Prayer again: sitting with powerlessness when your partner is in grief and you cannot fix it00:23:28 - Grief, powerlessness, and the collective: feeling overwhelmed by what is happening in the world right now00:24:07 - How to reclaim a sense of power inside grief: energy, thought, creative action, and nature00:26:47 - Grieving the life you never lived: not finding a partner, not having children, the loss of a dream that never arrived00:29:23 - Waiting for the "then" moment of happiness, and why choosing it now is the real work00:32:15 - Chad: a decade of being single after divorce, the grief of the life not lived, and the shame that comes with it00:33:54 - Morwenna: the story of the Colombian elder whose wife left him, and what he did with that grief00:36:41 - Why the United States has such an unhealthy relationship with death and grief, and how other cultures hold it differently00:37:56 - The Celtic tradition of singing someone to the other side, and grief as a celebration in other realms00:40:03 - How unprocessed grief stores in the body and what that can look like over time00:41:44 - Why we give even less honor to the grief of a relationship ending than to death, and the cultural scorn that comes with it00:43:45 - Why we need to honor a relationship's loss fully before we can truly move into something new00:45:21 - Grieving your ex inside a new relationship: why it can feel threatening to a partner and what it actually means00:47:52 - April's moment in Hawaii: crying over her ex-husband while Chad held her, and his response that changed everything00:51:20 - Chad: why someone who shows no grief about their ex might actually be a more complicated sign than someone who does00:53:13 - Morwenna: anger and rage as a necessary part of grief, and when putting energy into that emotion keeps you entangled00:55:23 - April: how texting angry responses during the divorce kept fueling the cycle, and learning to take the higher road00:56:35 - The guilt and shame of the partner who had to initiate the ending, and how that can show up as self-abandonment00:57:46 - Stages of grief carried into the next relationship: April's ex-husband and 15 years of unprocessed wounds finally surfacing01:00:20 - How to keep your heart open to love again: Morwenna on honoring bitterness without attaching stories to it01:05:57 - Closing wisdom: going to nature, sitting with your back against a tree, and remembering that you areSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Chad takes an honest, vulnerable look at the real masculinity crisis — where it comes from, what it's costing men and the women who love them, and what actually rebuilds identity and attraction. This conversation is for the woman who wants to understand the man in her life, and for the man who feels something is missing but has no language for it. Explore masculinity, emotional identity, sexual polarity, men's mentorship, and why shame never creates the change we're desperately looking for.In this interview, you'll learn:How Chad redefined masculinity after years of rejecting it entirelyWhy playground dominance wiring still drives adult male behaviorThe cultural vacuum that made Andrew Tate possible — and what actually fills itWhy telling men what NOT to be created more damage than it solvedHow labeling emotions as "feminine" quietly kills men's growth and your relationshipThe real difference between masculine and feminine energy frameworks — and why Chad pushes back on the popular versionWhy men doing inner work FOR their partner almost always backfiresWhat sovereignty actually looks like in a man — and why women are more attracted to it than they realizeHow women can support a man's growth without trying to fix himWhy men's community is the single most impactful thing for a relationship — more than coaching or retreatsWith Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss:0:00 Why physical strength feels like identity to young men but isn't5:59 Playground dominance: how boys define strength before they understand it9:49 Strength of will vs. strength of character, and why it matters in relationships13:59 How adversity and mentorship together are the only things that build real character21:59 Why the mentorship gap is a generational crisis, and where men are going to fill it23:10 The unmet need Andrew Tate exploits, and what it reveals about modern masculinity27:30 Men in the wild: the Costco moment that started a bigger conversation29:54 Why social media creates a distorted reality about how bad men actually are34:29 The fracture inside men who rejected masculinity wholesale, including Chad38:45 Why "masculine and feminine energy" language backfires with men who want to feel like men41:39 The dinner table story: four men talking about feelings, one phrase, and sudden silence44:51 Why women connecting to their masculine is empowering, while men connecting to their feminine feels threatening46:16 What women actually crave vs. what men fear losing when they drop the performance49:15 Sexual polarity: the real energy underneath attraction, and why it gets weaponized54:25 The women who've given up on men, and the women who want Chad to fix their husbands56:35 Why caring about men's inner world is controversial, and why it matters anyway59:02 The global argument: how the feminine rage uprising and masculine identity crisis are the same wound from two sides1:00:06 Why shame and blame never fix anything, and what actually does1:03:30 The catch-22 of pleasing your partner: why trying harder makes attraction fade1:07:19 Chad's final word to women: what believing in your man actually looks like1:09:14 Chad's final word to men: stop giving other people the power to define who you areLink to Podcast with Cam Fraser:AppleSpotifySupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailJennifer Holland, somatic coach and creator of the DRIPP methodology, joins April for a raw, expansive conversation about why real pleasure can only emerge from deep safety in the body. They explore de-armoring (releasing trauma stored in physical tissue), the difference between people-pleasing and devotion, "inner daddy" energy as a reframe of reparenting, and why so many women feel pleasure as more dangerous than pain. If you've done years of mindset work and still feel stuck in the same patterns, this episode is the somatic next layer.  In this interview, you'll learn:1. Why safety and pleasure are inseparable in the body2. What de-armoring actually is and how trauma physically lives in your tissue3. The difference between people-pleasing and true devotion (to yourself and a partner)4. How to develop "inner daddy" energy without slipping into shame or reparenting5. Why slowing down often unleashes a tsunami of unfelt emotion, and what to do with it6. How somatic touch and self-massage rewire the nervous system back into pleasure7. Why the cervix holds generational and birth trauma (and what cervical de-armoring reveals)8. Why everyone should begin a safe self-de-armoring practice at home You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in. With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️ What We Discuss:0:00 Why slowing down unleashes a tsunami of unfelt emotion 1:56 Jennifer's purpose: bringing people home to their bodies 4:56 Why so many women can't look at themselves in the mirror 6:49 How control and disconnection cause disease in the body 11:52 Inner daddy energy: a kinky reframe of reparenting 22:31 Pleasing a partner vs. devotion to yourself 30:38 Devotion, worship, and Mary Magdalene healing 33:44 The rise of yoni de-armoring and why women are seeking it 38:50 What de-armoring actually is (and what it isn't) 44:54 How to begin a self-de-armoring practice at home 46:58 Cervical armor, generational trauma, and unlocking new pleasure 55:08 Where to find Jennifer (Drip retreat, online classes, 1:1 work) 58:19 Closing wisdom: trust the inner voice you abandoned Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailMost people think they are broken when they feel emotionally shut down, stuck in painful patterns, or numb in their relationships. Somatic practitioner Darci Burke joins April and Chad to explain why your nervous system is not broken, it is protecting you.And how learning to work with your body instead of against it is the key to healing, deeper connection, and love that actually feels safe. In this interview, you'll learn:1. How to recognize if you are living in a freeze state without knowing it2. Why your nervous system shuts down instead of fighting or fleeing3. What the difference is between freeze and full dorsal vagal shutdown4. Why trauma is not about what happened to you but what happened inside you5. How childhood wounds get silently projected onto your adult partner6. Why regulation does not mean calm it means presence7. How to stay present with anger without destroying yourself or your relationship8. Why you cannot think your way out of what your body is holding9. How titration and pendulation release survival energy safely from the body10. Why plant medicine and breathwork can re-traumatize an under-resourced nervous system11. How to communicate your body sensations to your partner during conflict12. Why relationship health is measured by how fast you repair not how often you rupture. You are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in.With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss:00:00 Teaser: Why relationships become self-serving without inner work 01:30 Introducing somatic practitioner Darci Burke 03:00 Live grounding practice, orienting and resourcing your nervous system 10:00 How Darci's own healing led her to somatic work 15:00 Chad on freeze, dissociation, and men's disconnection from the body 17:36 What a freeze state actually is and why it is exhausting 20:00 The antelope analogy, freeze as survival, not weakness 21:35 Functional freeze, functioning on the outside, numb on the inside 26:00 Trauma is what happened inside you, not just what happened to you 28:26 The personality traits that are actually survival patterns 31:00 Why healing must be slow, titrated, and consistent 36:31 Women, anger, and the nervous system history behind it 40:00 Regulation means presence, not calm 42:38 Your partner mirrors your unresolved wounds 47:00 How childhood rewires your definition of love and safety 55:00 Your nervous system sets the foundation for your entire lived experience 57:00 Practical somatic steps to heal freeze inside a relationship 1:00:19 How to name body sensations to your partner during conflict 1:01:17 Relationship health is how fast you repair after rupture 1:06:22 How to connect with Darci Burke 1:07:20 Darci's closing message, come home to yourself Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailEverything you learned about mindset, willpower, and "faking it till you make it" has gotten you this far, but what happens when you hit the wall? In this deeply personal conversation, April sits on the other side of the mic as Chad interviews her about the somatic, nervous-system-level transformation she's walked through this year  and what embodied change actually looks like when you stop performing and start feeling.This episode is for anyone who has done the mindset work, read the books, attended the seminars, and still hits the same wall. It's for the woman tired of wearing masks of confidence, the man learning to lead with vulnerability, and the couple ready to stop repeating old patterns.In this interview, you'll learn:Why "fake it till you make it" creates masks of confidence instead of real changeThe three ways of knowing (mind, heart, gut) and why embodiment is the missing pieceHow to reframe discipline as devotion to end the burnout cycleWhy safety in your body matters more than confidence or willpowerHow triggers in relationships become the fastest path to healingThe truth about vulnerability that real leaders never talk aboutWhat it actually means to be self-led (and which parts of you are driving)A daily practice for coming back to love when your walls go upYou are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in.With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss:0:00 The part of myself that takes the most courage to face 0:35 Welcome + what transformation really means on a nervous system level 2:40 The three ways of knowing and why embodiment changes everything 4:15 Why mindset work alone hits a wall 5:25 The conversation that built Safe to Love: safety as love language 6:05 Willpower is force (and why it leads to burnout) 8:30 Reframing discipline as devotion 12:15 Performing a better life vs. actually living one 15:00 From Tony Robbins and NLP to somatic coaching 40:20 Why the inner work never ends (and why that's the point) 43:30 The hardest thing to embody this year: true vulnerability 45:40 What it's like being with a partner who can see your mess 50:00 What it actually means to be self-led 52:40 A daily devotion to love yourself back to an open heart Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailAfter painful divorces, years of self-work, and a lot of wrong turns on dating apps, Adrienne and Jake each got radically clear on who they were calling in and then the universe delivered. In this final chapter of their epic love story, they share exactly how they manifested each other, what it felt like the moment they matched, and the real, unfiltered work of building a safe, playful, grown-up partnership after everything they had been through. In this interview, you'll learn:1. How to actually "call in" your person (and why meditation and plant medicine played a role for Jake)2. Why Adrienne stopped writing a list for her future partner and started writing one for herself 3. What "non-attachment to outcome" looks like on a dating app and why it is the single most attractive quality 4. How to hold your standards high without becoming rigid, bitter, or performative 5. Why the universe sends you "almost" people right before the real one arrives 6. How to build a first date that actually signals safety, effort, and masculine leadership 7. What the end of the honeymoon phase really looks like (and why it is a good thing) 8. How to fight in a way that creates more intimacy, not less 9. The difference between honesty with grace and criticism without care 10. Why masculine and feminine energy shift naturally in a relationship and how to ride it without panicking 11. How to stop tiptoeing around your partner's wounds while still holding space for them 12. Why play, lightness, and "letting your weird out" is the real foundation of lasting love 13. The one piece of advice Adrienne and Jake would give anyone still waiting for their person What We Discuss:00:00:00 - The manifestation that changed everything00:01:23 - Recap: where Adrienne and Jake left off00:02:35 - Getting back on the dating apps after a long marriage00:03:48 - The year of solo work before dating again00:04:00 - Jake's plant medicine retreat and calling in his goddess00:07:04 - Ending a date mid-hike because she wasn't his person00:08:00 - Jake's list: the exact qualities he manifested00:10:08 - Adrienne's year of dating the wrong men00:14:03 - Writing the list that changed everything00:21:37 - The trap of being "the fun one" on every date00:23:29 - The #1 quality women find most attractive in men00:27:28 - The universe sends almost-her right before her00:31:37 - The hinge match, the rose, and the FaceTime vibe check00:34:30 - The first date Jake planned (and the comet they missed)00:51:00 - Their first fight and what it revealed00:56:01 - The death of the honeymoon phase and why it was a gift00:59:47 - King and Queen energy, and how it shifts in real life01:02:35 - "Welcome to Saturday": the fight that wasn't about sleep01:11:30 - Honesty and grace: the two ingredients of real repair01:14:33 - Sensitive vs. avoidant, know the difference01:17:35 - Final advice to anyone still waiting for their personSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailWhat do you do when the love is gone but the grief won't leave?Jake Orak opens up about the quiet unraveling of a decade-long marriage - not through betrayal, but through two people slowly drifting apart. He walks us through the coaching, the inner work, and the completion ceremony that finally gave both him and his ex-wife the energetic freedom to truly move on. This is not a story about cheating, betrayal, neglect or abuse. It is a story about two people who loved each other enough to let go with grace.If you have ever felt like a past relationship still has a quiet hold on you, this episode is the map you have been waiting for. Explore conscious uncoupling, the completion ceremony framework, and what it truly means to heal after divorce, release emotional attachment, and rebuild your capacity for real intimacy.In this interview, you'll learn:What a completion ceremony is and how to do one with your exWhy staying loyal to your commitment long after love is gone keeps both people stuckHow drift,  not betrayal, quietly ends most long-term relationshipsThe difference between cutting cords and consciously completing a relationshipWhy choosing divorce can be one of the most loving acts two people shareHow to stop withholding your truth from your partner before it breaks everythingWhat the Ho'oponopono practice is and how it fits into real relationship healingHow coaching helped Jake recognize patterns he couldn't see from inside the relationshipYou are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in.With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss:0:00 — He Flew Around the World Just to Say Goodbye2:41 — A Marriage That Started as a Visa Hack4:50 — Deported on Their Honeymoon11:11 — Achieved the Dream. Completely Fell Apart.13:20 — The Core Wound Underneath the Workaholism25:25 — She Called It. He agreed. They Both Just Broke Down.26:21 — "I Wish You Had Cheated On Me So I Could Just Hate You"29:32 — Choosing Divorce as an Act of Love33:53 — What Is a Completion Ceremony? (Conscious Uncoupling Explained)35:29 — The Full Ceremony Document Read Live On Air43:16 — One Last Kiss. Into the Pool. It Was Done.1:13:42 — How He Healed His Dad Wound Without His Dad Being There1:18:27 — She Sent Him a Rose on Hinge the Week He Was LeavingSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailToday, April and Chad sit down with Adrienne Isbell, a yoga and sound healing teacher who spent over a decade inside a narcissistic marriage before her world collapsed and rebuilt itself into something far greater than she ever imagined.Adrienne opens up about the childhood wounds that shaped how she loved, the financial control that left her with no career and no way out, and what it really felt like to discover an affair, stay, and discover it again. She shares the moment a yin yoga class cracked her open after months of emotional numbness and how somatic healing, sound baths, and the courage to stop playing small brought her back to life.What the world calls starting over is usually years of quiet inner work nobody sees until it arrives all at once, changed.In this interview, you'll learn:How to recognize the signs of financial abuse and coercive control inside a marriageHow to understand avoidant attachment and why it quietly damages the love you want mostHow to use somatic healing and yoga to process trauma when talk therapy alone is not enoughHow to trust your body's truth even when your mind is not ready to face itHow to release the word "deserve" and stop measuring your worth by what others took from youHow to rebuild your identity, your body, and your sense of play after leaving a controlling relationshipHow to give yourself permission to leave when every support system is telling you to stay and work it outHow to move from emotional numbness into a life full of creativity, connection, and real loveYou are allowed to choose yourself. You are allowed to stop playing small. The life you are grieving may be the very thing making room for the one you actually belong in.With Love and Safety,Chad & April ❤️What We Discuss: 0:00 — Welcome to Safe to Love | Valentine's Day Special1:41 — Adrienne's Story: 6 Years That Completely Rebuilt Her3:22 — How She Got Trapped: Meeting a Narcissist at Age 218:27 — Financial Control in Marriage: When the Money Was Never Yours15:46 — Childhood Wounds That Made Her the Perfect Target19:19 — Discovering the Affair: "Love, Your Boyfriend"29:07 — The Second Betrayal: Hawaii, Lies, and the Point of No Return34:39 — The Yoga Class That Finally Let Her Breathe Again45:01 — Why Women Stay: When Every Resource Tells You to Work It Out53:55 — Spy Cameras, Stalking Injunction, and the Gift of No Contact1:05:00 — "Deserve Isn't Real": The Bhagavad Gita Moment That Set Her Free1:12:10 — DRIP, Drums, and Reclaiming Her Body Voice and LifeSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan Mail | On this final episode of Season 1, Chad and April once again sit down with Adira - this time to share their own special love story! How it all started, this Youtube channel started with our love story and we share about courage and love. And trust and surrender. Our mission is to give the world hope and our story is full of that!! We hope you enjoy it!! Love you April and Chad  Amazon link for "Women's Anatomy of Arousal" Spotify Link for "A Joyful Man"Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailOn this episode April sits down one-on-one with Erica Lemke, a Certified Sex and Relationship Coach,  Board Certified Clinical Sexologist, and the founder of Sex Coach SLC in Salt Lake City. We talk about all things Sex and Pleasure for women in mid-life, including  Kegels to Safe Intimacy to Body Image and everything in between! Known for her warm presence and grounded expertise, Erica helps midlife women and couples feel turned on, tuned in, and deeply connect: to their bodies, their pleasure, and each other!Follow Erica on Instagram iamericalemkesexcoachslcSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Safe to Love we bring you a Love story in its inception. Stephen and Carrie have not been together for decades or even years, reflecting back on the life they have shared and all they have learned together. They give us a real-time insight into what it's like to take all of the lessons life has taught us about love and integrate them into a new relationship. Their example of leading with the heart and of showing up in mature authenticity and vulnerability right from the start is a  beautiful template of a different way to engage in building a new relationship. Love requires courage, the courage to risk being seen by another, the courage to have faith in our ability to navigate whatever may come, and the courage to lean in when our heart says "Yes!"Follow Stephen Karafiath on InstagramFollow Carrie Cox on InstagramSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailOn this special episode of Safe to Love, April and Chad sit down to share with our audience what beats at the heart of Safe to Love, from our mission statement, to our Core Values, as well as who our audience is and the different themes that we use to determine the topics we talk about. Special thanks to our dear friend Adira for coming from behind the camera to interview us for this episode! Adira was a core member of the Safe to Love family through the entire production and launch of Season 1 (and is still the editor for our Substack!), and without her we never would have gotten this dream to launch!Speaking of Substack, if you are enjoying our show we would love it if you subscribed to us there, where you will find more stories of real love and other writings.Subscribe to Safe to Love on Substack - https://substack.com/@safetoloveWe are on a Mission to help the world believe in love again, and give YOU the courage to find it!Values - we are always1. Courageous2. Compassionate3.  Accountable4. Authentic5. PracticalThemes/Topics of the Safe to Love show1. Safety2. Courage3. Communication4. Intimacy5. Relationships6. SexSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this one-on-one Episode of Safe to Love, Chad sits down with his teacher, mentor, and friend, Cam Fraser, to talk about masculinity and men's sexuality, and how our relationship to each affect how we show up in relationships.Cam is Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist, he served as the Deputy Chairperson for the Society of Australian Sexologists from 2022 through 2024. Being a former Tantric Yoga Teacher, his work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.Interest in working with Cam? Check out his website!Follow Cam on InstagramSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode we bring you the story of how painful the intersection of love and religion can be. Darci and Brandon's entire lives - including their marriage - were built upon the foundations of the Mormon Church (officially called the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints). When their souls could no longer fit within the confines of that religion, not only did they have to confront what that meant for their faith, they also had to learn how to grow and evolve their relationship into something that could survive and thrive without relying on the tenets of Mormonism, which had dictated the meaning of their marriage for so long - including what the purpose of their union and their individual roles within it. We are so excited to share this story with you, one of immense courage and endless hope. Through the power of their love, Darci and Brandon's marriage not only survived the deconstruction of their faith, it grew into something even more beautiful. Along the journey, Darci and Brandon became embodied experts on how to regulate our nervous system and create a space in our body where that was safe to be present. They truly represent what it means to be "Safe to Love."If you want to book a somatic session with Darci, you can do so on her website https://www.holoshealing.infoFollow Darci Burke on InstagramFollow Brandon Burke on InstagramFollow their show, Safe to be Seen, on InstagramSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Safe to Love, Chad sits down with April for a powerful interview about the life that led her to creating Safe to Love, the choices along the way that shaped her into the woman that she is, and the courage it takes to leave behind a marriage that is not good for either partner. April bravery and authenticity are on full display here as she shares a story that so many women experience, way too many in silence, of being in a marriage with love and friendship and mutual respect, but lacking passion and intimacy. When two people who care for each other have to face the reality that they cannot meet each other's unique needs, the rightness of a decision does not make it hurt any less. Let this quintessential episode of Safe to Love bring you both hope and courage in equal measure to fight for your own love story!Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Safe to Love, April and Chad sit down with Christy Foster to explore  how the body carries our unspoken stories, how physical patterns often mirror emotional imprints, and what it really means to listen to the “subconscious language” of the body. Christy shares her framework for understanding the two-way communication between body and mind, and how cultivating this awareness can transform not only our physical and emotional health, but the way we connect to ourselves and to others.Christy also opens up about her mission to empower individuals to decode the signals our bodies send us every day, signals that often go unnoticed but shape our lives in profound ways. Through her work as an educator, mentor, and healer, she teaches others how to create deeper alignment, self-awareness, and integration within their own mind body systems. Whether you’re a practitioner, someone on your own healing journey, or simply curious about how the body stores emotion and memory, this conversation will expand your understanding of what’s possible.Christy Foster is a psychosomatic therapist, educator, and mentor with over 25 years of experience helping people understand the language of the body and psyche. Her work explores archetypes as living patterns that shape our everyday choices, relationships, and emotional responses, offering practical insight into how awareness creates change.If you want to contact Christy or just learn more about here and her work you can find her on Facebook, Instagram, or through her website!Facebook Group Emotional AnatomyChristy Foster on FacebookChristy Foster (christyfoster.wellness) On InstagramChristy's WebsiteSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode we bring you the story young love, two people starting a life together without knowing who they really were. Adam and Caitlin share their journey of both reinventing themselves and their relationship, all while confronting their own childhood trauma and juggling the demands of paying the bills and raising a family. Follow their story as they transform from two people playing a role they inherited, learning to drop the masks, and bravely facing the pain that comes with authentic awakening. They share what it takes to find ourselves without losing each other. Let this story bring hope and challenge the narrative that young love cannot grow into a mature relationship!Follow Adam Heaps on InstagramFollow Caitlin Heaps on InstagramFollow The Energy Stack on InstagramSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, April sits down with Chad for a deeply personal conversation about the twists and turns that shaped his life. From the reality of addiction and the long road of recovery to rebuilding his identity through the working with Men, Chad shares how choosing courage over and over again led to deep healing and opened doors he never expected.Did you know you can watch Safe to Love on YouTube? Their story eventually intersects in a way that feels both serendipitous and intentional: two people doing their individual work who found belonging, partnership, and the spark that became this podcast. Together they reflect on what it means to create a relationship rooted in safety, accountability, and emotional maturity and why their shared mission through Safe to Lovematters so much.Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Safe to Love, Chelsea talks with April and Chad about the history of marriage, the cultural forces that shape intimacy, the impact of religion on relationships, and what her research shows about connection, safety, and healing within partnership.Did you know you can watch Safe to Love on YouTube? Chelsea Shields is a biological and cultural anthropologist who studies how culture, belief, and social connection shape the human body and our most intimate relationships. Raised in a traditional Mormon family, she became curious about how symbols, expectations, and suggestion create real physiological change. This focus led her to earn dual PhDs from Boston University in Biological and Cultural Anthropology. For over a decade, Chelsea led an international field school and conducted long term research with Asante Indigenous healers in Ghana, examining ritual, group entrainment, polyrhythmic drumming, and the link between social pain and social healing. Her work with mentors including Dr. Ted Kaptchuk at Harvard Medical School revealed new insights into social susceptibility and sociocultural placebo effects.Dr. Shields WebsiteFind Dr. Shields on LinkedIn: Support the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow

Send us Fan MailOn the debut episode of Safe to Love, we bring you a story that captures the heart of our mission to help the world believe in love again. Scott and LaRae Wright join us to share a relationship built on healing, honesty, and the courage to begin again later in life.(Did you know you can also WATCH this episode on YouTube?!)Scott and LaRae first knew each other in high school, but life took them in separate directions. He got married, raised a family, navigated divorce, and spent a decade losing himself in the party lifestyle. She moved to New York, achieved great success in business, and experienced relationships that were powerful and exciting, but lacking in tenderness and depth. Thirty years later, their paths unexpectedly crossed, and what followed became a powerful example of how love can return when two people have done the inner work to receive it.In this episode, they open up about their 50 years of life before they found each other again, and the beautiful 15 years they have shared since. Scott speaks candidly about his intense spiritual journey, including confronting his struggles with pornography and the deeper emotional patterns beneath it. LaRae shares what it took to choose love with clarity and boundaries, and how the two of them built a partnership rooted in accountability, devotion, and real emotional presence.We explore how identity shifts throughout adulthood, especially for men in corporate culture, and how both Scott and LaRae eventually let go of their attachment to traditional roles to build something more aligned with who they truly are. They even host their own podcast together, “The Observatory,” a space for authentic discussions, dedicated to helping people discover – or rediscover – meaning in their life. This conversation is about healing. It is about what actually works. And it is about choosing love – not just once, but continually, with intention and practice.Welcome to Safe to Love. Let this first story remind you that it is never too late to start again.Listen to Scott and LaRae's Podcast "The Observatory" and follow them on Instagram!"The Observatory" on Spotify"The Observatory" on Apple Podcasts"The Observatory" on InstagramScott Wright on Instagram @scott_david_wrightLaRae Wright on Instagram @Larae_WrightSupport the show🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship?❤️ Work With ChadInstagram |  @chadonlove❤️  Work with AprilInstagram |  @aprilbenincosa  Follow or Contact Safe to Love:Email | [email protected] |   safetolove.org YouTube |   @SafetoLoveShow Facebook |  Safe-to-Love Instagram |  @safetoloveshow TikTok | @safetoloveshow