Package Deals and Straitjackets: Doing Sex Well Together

Paul applies this week’s ideas to the bedroom, explaining how past sexual injuries and misunderstandings leave spouses ‘sexually crippled’ and limit intimacy. He contrasts small issues (“splinters”) with bigger relationship problems (“chunks”), urges honest conversations about trauma and desire, and warns against expecting a partner to be a different person in different roles (“package deals”). Practical guidance: tell each other your stories, ask and believe, stop comparing, and work together to create a satisfying sex life.