Parenting 2.0: The Work Begins With Us | Dr. Francine Toder

This is an episode re-run and one that is still so relevant and needs a re-listen. It seems actually that it is even more relevant today.  Parent's are still asking Parents are still asking, "How do I stay close to my adult child without pushing them away?" Francine Toder's answer isn't another communication technique—it's something much harder: look at yourself first.When our children become adults, many of us assume the hardest years are behind us. But for countless parents, the challenges simply change.In this thoughtful conversation, psychologist and author Dr. Francine Toder explains why building healthy relationships with our adult children requires something many of us never expected: changing ourselves.Drawing from her book Your Kids Are Grown: Parenting 2.0, Francine explores why parents often experience anxiety, disappointment, and even physical stress over their adult children's decisions—and why those feelings are often signals that we need to pause before reacting.Together we discuss:Why our expectations often become our biggest obstacleWhat that "knot in your stomach" really meansHow parents unintentionally push adult children awayThe importance of treating adult children as equalsWhy advice—even well-intended advice—can feel like criticism (we've heard this before!)How gifts and financial help sometimes come with hidden stringsThe role of self-awareness in repairing relationshipsWhy our children don't need us to fix everything—they need us to understand themHow to create a meaningful life beyond parentingIf you've ever wondered whether you're helping—or accidentally hurting—your relationship with your adult child, this episode is filled with compassionate insight and practical wisdom.To send us your own question for a future episode:Call our Listener Line: 719-347-1106Email: [email protected] are on SUBSTACK now too - with "Behind the Mic."  We talk about how the episode resonated with us and share some inside scoop that you won't want to miss.Please follow us on social media now.  It helps us so much.  Facebook InstagramHuge thanks to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer.  Website: biteyourtonguepodcast.comSubstack: Behind the MicListener Line: 719-347-1106Email: [email protected] remember…sometimes you just have to bite your tongue.Support the show  The site and podcast do not contain any medical/health information or advice. The medical/health information is for general information and educational purposes only and is not suitable for professional device. Accordingly, before taking any actions based upon such information, we encourage you to consult with the appropriate professionals. We do not provide any kind of medical/health advice. THE USE OF OR RELIANCE OF ANY INFORMATION CONTAINED ON THE SITE OR PODCAST IS SOLELY AT YOUR OWN RISK.