Pathological Altruism- Do You Put Yourself Last? (w/ Dr. Jattu Senesie)

Send us Fan MailConstantly putting others first can look like love, but over time, it can cost you your well-being.In this week’s conversation, Dr. Nicole sits down with Dr. Jattu Senesie to talk about pathological altruism and how the habit of always saying yes can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and self-abandonment. They unpack how high-achieving women are often conditioned to prioritize everyone else, how this behavior is rewarded, and why it becomes so difficult to choose yourself without guilt.If you have ever found yourself overextended, constantly available, or wondering why you feel drained while  doing “good” for others, this episode is a reminder that caring for yourself is not selfish. As you reconnect with your humanity, you create space to live, serve, and show up from a place that is whole.Song of the week: Cranes in the Sky by SolangeTopics Covered:00:00:00 – Episode snippet00:01:30 – Introducing our guest, Dr. Jattu Senesie00:03:53 – What is pathological altruism?00:15:49 – Signs you may be a pathological altruist00:17:27 – “How can I inconvenience myself?” mindset00:26:55 – Clarity comes after rest00:29:20 – You cannot pour from an empty tank00:32:33 – Intentional well-being: The “7 joy activities” practice00:38:55 – Gaining energy, creativity, and clarity00:40:11 – Learning to do less00:42:54 – Humanity00:45:16 – Connect with Dr. JattuKey Takeaways:“If you're saying yes to them, you very well are saying no to something for yourself.”*Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors re-open.  bit.ly/yncapplyAbout Our GuestDr. Jattu Senesie is a Board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist turned transformational success coach and self-proclaimed recovering pathological altruist. She helps mission-driven professionals create intentional, sustainable lives by aligning high achievement with personal well-being. After retiring from clinical medicine at 35, she now supports early-career professionals, especially those in service-oriented fields, who feel overwhelmed or on the brink of burnout. Through coaching, workshops, and speaking, she equips her clients with the tools to care for themselves as deeply as they care for others.Connect with Dr. Jattu:Website: essenceofstrength.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/dressenceofstrengthLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jattu/About Your HostDr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE!Connect with Dr. Nicole:Web: https://yournextchapter.co/IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_coFB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.coJoin our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/communitySupport the show