“People Pleasing is Just Kind of Lying” with Alex Song-Xi...

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TV writer, comedian, and deeply introspective friend Alex Song Xia joins Lilan Bowden for one of those unplanned conversations that somehow becomes the best day. They wander through overextending and under-communicating in love, what it means to let people be disappointed in you (and survive it), and how art can transform a mess of feelings into something another person can actually keep. Plus: ADHD identity, reparenting yourself while TikTok astrologers narrate your season, and why sometimes the most honest version of you is the one holding the microphone.Ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more pondery goodness at backdrop.fm. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This episode was published on April 10, 2026.

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TV writer, comedian, and deeply introspective friend Alex Song Xia joins Lilan Bowden for one of those unplanned conversations that somehow becomes the best day. They wander through overextending and under-communicating in love, what it means to let...

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