Pleasing Others, Losing Ourselves: The Inner Workings of People Pleasers

Have you ever said yes when you didn’t want to? Do you try to avoid conflict?  Do you worry about what others think? Do you struggle to hold a boundary, especially regarding something for you? These are all warning signs you’re a people pleaser.You're likely a people pleaser if you answered yes to any of these questions.This episode of Balance and Beyond unravels this phenomenon, diving deep into the psychology of a people pleaser, particularly how it tends to hamper the success of high-achieving women. We discuss how this need to please others stems from an underlying need to be liked and an impulse to earn acceptance by helping, rescuing, or flattering others.As we move forward, we examine the impact of these pleasing tendencies on women's personal and professional lives. We focus on the ingrained childhood assumptions that often lead women to prioritise others' needs before their own, culminating in bitterness, resentment, and overlooked self-care. We also explore the transformative shift you need to make and shed the desire to be nice. Instead, a better alternative can free you from the shackles of putting others before yourself without losing your inherent desire to be helpful and kind.Join us on this enlightening journey as we provide you with valuable insights to overcome the conditioning of your upbringing and stand up for your own needs and desires.To view the Transcript from this week's episode, you can find it on our Balance & Beyond Podcast webpage: https://www.balanceinstitute.com/podcast/2023/14Send a text message to JoThe Balance & Beyond Podcast Hosted by Jo Stone, founder of The Balance InstituteFor women who are already succeeding, but beginning to wonder if they're willing to keep losing themselves in the process.We know high achievers, because we are one. This podcast draws on Jo's 20 years in global leadership and thousands of hours coaching executives and ambitious women: the patterns she sees, how to untangle them, and what it actually takes to keep your success without paying for it with yourself.If something landed today, there's more where that came from.And if you know a woman this would resonate with, send it her way.🎙️https://www.balanceinstitute.com/podcast 🔗 www.balanceinstitute.com💼https://au.linkedin.com/in/stonejoanne📷 @therealjostone