Podcast 6 - How to Ruin Your Son With Comfort

If you wish to ruin your son, begin by making him comfortable. Smoothen out his days, lessen his frustrations. Explain away his disappointments before they have time to settle. This will reduce conflict and preserve harmony.Protect him from discomfort. Step in early, and often. When he fails, clarify that it wasn’t really his fault. It was the world’s. And when he struggles, remove the struggle. This will feel like love.Teach him that effort is admirable, even when it produces nothing. Results are optional. After all, he’s special. This will feel like you’re teaching him confidence.And whatever you do, never let any responsibility rest on his shoulders. He might think it’s uncomfortable. He might drop it. This might make him unhappy. Better you hold on to it for him.Eventually, he will meet the world. It will not negotiate. It will not be especially interested in his feelings. This might come as a shock to him. It might even ruin his life.There is, of course, another approach. It is less soothing, a bit more inconvenient. It involves a lot of work, responsibility and discomfort. It is not always fun, nor is it easy.It does, however, tend to work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goodmenblueprint.substack.com