Proper Conduct in the Restroom – Introduction

The Torah value of Seni'ut – modesty – applies even in private, and even when one uses the restroom. Although one might intuitively assume that G-d is not present in the restroom, and does not descend into places of filth, the truth is that G-d is present everywhere. He is incapable of getting dirty, or becoming contaminated, and so He is present even in the lowliest and dirtiest locations, including the restroom. As such, Halacha requires conducting oneself appropriately even when using the restroom. The importance of this concept can be seen in the Gemara's discussion in Masechet Berachot (62b) about the story of King Shaul when he was pursuing David. As we read in the Book of Shemuel I (24), David was hiding from Shaul in a cave, and as Shaul passed near the cave, he needed to perform his bodily functions, and so he looked for a private place. He went deep into the cave, far from the entrance, and he exposed the minimum amount needed to relieve himself. While he was in the cave, David's men urged him to kill Shaul, who was trying to kill him. David, however, refused, and he instead secretly cut the corner of Shaul's garment, which he later showed to Shaul to inform him that he had the ability to kill him but refrained from doing so. The Gemara comments that it was Shaul's high standards of modesty when performing his bodily functions that provided the merit in which he was not killed during those moments. Earlier (Berachot 62a), the Gemara teaches that one who conducts himself modestly even in the restroom is saved from the poisonous snakes and scorpions, and also from "demons." Back then, people used outhouses, which exposed a person to harmful creatures such as snakes and scorpions. As Rashi explains, by acting modestly in the outhouse, one avoids drawing the attention of those creatures. And the demons, Rashi writes, respect those who act in a modest way, and so they do not seek to harm such a person. The Kaf Ha'haim (Rav Yaakov Haim Sofer, Baghdad-Israel, 1870-1939) cites the Yafeh La'leb as teaching that modest behavior in the restroom is one of the practices through which a person earns long life. The Mishna Berura cites the Sefer Misvot Katan (Rav Yishak of Corbeil, France, d. 1280) as maintaining that modest conduct when performing bodily functions constitutes a Torah obligation, established by the verse in the Book of Debarim (23:15), "Ve'haya Mahanecha Kadosh" – "Your camp shall be holy." Others maintain that this verse speaks specifically of a military camp, and the Sages extended this requirement to all times and places. The Petah Ha'debir (Rav Haim Binyamin Pontremoli, Turkey, d. 1873) writes that as this question is subject to a debate among the Rishonim, we must treat the obligation of modesty in the restroom as a possible Torah obligation and thus apply the same stringencies that we apply to other Torah obligations. The Gemara (Makkot 16b) teaches that it is forbidden to postpone performing one's bodily functions, and one should instead relieve himself as soon as he feels the need. The Torah (Vayikra 20:25) commands, "Ve'lo Teshakesu Et Nafshotechem," which the Gemara interprets to mean that one may act in a revolting manner. The Gemara gives the example of drinking water from the cup used to collect the blood when bloodletting. (The modern-day equivalent would be drinking water from the utensil used to collect one's blood when he takes a blood test.) Another example given by the Gemara is restraining oneself when he needs to relieve himself. One who does so is, essentially, carrying bodily waste around with him wherever he goes, which is disgusting, and it is thus forbidden. The Rambam, in Hilchot De'ot, adds that restraining oneself is also unhealthful, and adversely affects a person's health. As one is required to maintain his physical strength so he can properly learn Torah and serve Hashem, this is yet another reason why one must not delay using the restroom when he needs to. Additionally, the Ben Ish Hai (Rav Yosef Haim of Baghdad, 1833-1909) writes that delaying using the restroom makes it more difficult to maintain the purity of one's thoughts. It is improper to leave the door to the restroom open when one uses it, even if nobody is home, because, as the Zohar teaches, harmful spirits are in the restroom at that time. The Ben Ish Hai emphasizes this point, noting that only if the odor in the restroom is unbearable, one is allowed to leave the door open, provided that privacy can be assured. The Ben Ish Hai writes that if one needs to perform his bodily functions in an open field, such as if he has no restroom available, then he should face north or south, but not east or west.