Protective Defensive Maneuvers vs “Presenting the Deeper Me”

from Habits for Your Happily Ever After: Relationship Communication Advice

“Why don’t you ever initiate sex?!” vs cuddling up and kissing your sweetheart’s back. Which do you typically choose?Do you hide your heart in the precise moment you want to be loved? Or are you willing to disclose that super tender underbelly?Today we look at why it’s tempting to hide behind Protective Defensive Maneuvers (PDM’s) because when you start with compassion, change is easier.You’ll understand why you resort to PDM’s and understanding helps you forgive yourself and begin again differently.We’ll find some fun PDM turn-arounds like Presenting the Deeper Me.And we’ll reach into the archives for a very sly PDM (the protective kind) that might be part of your everyday language.Want more?Read my blog post about the word "should"Listen to episode #1 about how misunderstandings grow from disinformation in your relationship.Connect to Improve Your Relationship CommunicationVisit the show notes.Buy my book.Listen to my book.Please subscribe to my newsletter here. This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers.Follow me on Tik Tok.Follow me on Instagram.Reach me at 970-210-4480

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