Reactive Abuse From The Narcissist
An episode of the No Visible Bruises podcast, hosted by Caroline Strawson, titled "Reactive Abuse From The Narcissist" was published on February 13, 2024 and runs 12 minutes.
February 13, 2024 ·12m · No Visible Bruises
Summary
Have you ever reacted to a situation in such a negative way that you end up questioning if you’re the problem? This is what we call Reactive Abuse. I had never heard of the term when I came out of the relationship with my narcissistic husband. Still, when I learnt what it meant, I was so grateful, as it meant that my reactions were a result of all of the abuse I had endured and not a reflection of my personality. What you will learn in this episode: What reactive abuse is and how a narcissist uses it against you. How a narcissist will manipulate you to make it look like you’re the problem. Why abuse often escalates after separating from the narcissist. Reactive abuse is the equivalent of poking a bear with a stick and waiting for them to react aggressively and then trying to blame the bear for their reaction. Now, a bear probably won’t reflect on their reaction, asking themselves “Am I the bad one in this situation?” But, most humans will ask that question. As you can see from this situation, the bear wasn’t at fault, and neither were you. I hope this episode can guide you to see that you’re not the problem in your situation, and any reaction is usually because you have no other choice. Podcast Resources: Access my FREE 5 Video Mini-Series To Heal & Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse https://carolinestrawson.com/mini-series-ig Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/
Episode Description
Have you ever reacted to a situation in such a negative way that you end up questioning if you’re the problem? This is what we call Reactive Abuse. I had never heard of the term when I came out of the relationship with my narcissistic husband. Still, when I learnt what it meant, I was so grateful, as it meant that my reactions were a result of all of the abuse I had endured and not a reflection of my personality.
What you will learn in this episode:
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What reactive abuse is and how a narcissist uses it against you.
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How a narcissist will manipulate you to make it look like you’re the problem.
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Why abuse often escalates after separating from the narcissist.
Reactive abuse is the equivalent of poking a bear with a stick and waiting for them to react aggressively and then trying to blame the bear for their reaction. Now, a bear probably won’t reflect on their reaction, asking themselves “Am I the bad one in this situation?” But, most humans will ask that question. As you can see from this situation, the bear wasn’t at fault, and neither were you. I hope this episode can guide you to see that you’re not the problem in your situation, and any reaction is usually because you have no other choice.
Podcast Resources:
- Access my FREE 5 Video Mini-Series To Heal & Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse https://carolinestrawson.com/mini-series-ig
- Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
- Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
- Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson
- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/
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