Red Flags: In Therapy, Relationships, & Life

The real conversation: What happens when your therapist isn't working for you anymore? We share our own experiences with therapy and talk about why sometimes you have to say, “Yeah… this ain't it.” It doesn't necessarily mean the therapist is bad. Sometimes the fit just isn't right, your needs have changed, or you need a completely different approach. We break down what makes a good therapist-client fit, from communication style and therapeutic approach to boundaries, professionalism, and whether you actually feel heard. Because therapy is your time — not an opportunity for your therapist to tell you their whole life story. 🚩 Therapy Red Flags Therapists who constantly reschedule or show up late Therapists who make the session about themselves Poor boundaries or unprofessional behavior Being pushed into an approach that doesn't work for you Not feeling like you're getting the attention or support you need Understanding that sometimes the therapist isn't necessarily “bad” — they're just not your therapist And most importantly, we talk about giving yourself permission to leave when the relationship isn't serving you. 💬 TAP IN OR TAP OUT!? For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, we tackle a listener dilemma about anxious attachment, texting, and trusting your gut. Our listener knows that when their partner takes a few hours to respond, their mind starts doing what anxious attachment does best: creating a whole movie with absolutely no evidence. They find themselves wanting to pull away, overcorrect, or send a text they may regret later. So the question is: How do you know when it's your attachment system being triggered versus when your gut is actually telling you something is off? We get into the messy middle — because knowing your attachment style is helpful, but it doesn't mean you should automatically dismiss every feeling you have as “Oh, that's just my anxiety.” Sometimes your nervous system is activated. And sometimes… something really is off. We talk about learning to pause, check the facts, recognize your patterns, and still honor what you need in a relationship 💎Key Takeaway💎 You’re allowed to acknowledge that something isn’t working for you—and make a change. Whether it’s your therapist, your treatment approach, or even a relationship, recognizing that something isn’t a good fit isn’t failure. The goal is to pay attention to what you need, communicate it when possible, and give yourself permission to choose differently when necessary. Tap in Ya'll! Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts