Tap in with Tiffany

The real conversation: What happens when your therapist isn't working for you anymore? We share our own experiences with therapy and talk about why sometimes you have to say, “Yeah… this ain't it.” It doesn't necessarily mean the therapist is bad. Sometimes the fit just isn't right, your needs have changed, or you need a completely different approach. We break down what makes a good therapist-client fit, from communication style and therapeutic approach to boundaries, professionalism, and whether you actually feel heard. Because therapy is your time — not an opportunity for your therapist to tell you their whole life story. 🚩 Therapy Red Flags Therapists who constantly reschedule or show up late Therapists who make the session about themselves Poor boundaries or unprofessional behavior Being pushed into an approach that doesn't work for you Not feeling like you're getting the attention or support you need Understanding that sometimes the therapist isn't necessarily “bad” — they're just not your therapist And most importantly, we talk about giving yourself permission to leave when the relationship isn't serving you. 💬 TAP IN OR TAP OUT!? For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, we tackle a listener dilemma about anxious attachment, texting, and trusting your gut. Our listener knows that when their partner takes a few hours to respond, their mind starts doing what anxious attachment does best: creating a whole movie with absolutely no evidence. They find themselves wanting to pull away, overcorrect, or send a text they may regret later. So the question is: How do you know when it's your attachment system being triggered versus when your gut is actually telling you something is off? We get into the messy middle — because knowing your attachment style is helpful, but it doesn't mean you should automatically dismiss every feeling you have as “Oh, that's just my anxiety.” Sometimes your nervous system is activated. And sometimes… something really is off. We talk about learning to pause, check the facts, recognize your patterns, and still honor what you need in a relationship 💎Key Takeaway💎 You’re allowed to acknowledge that something isn’t working for you—and make a change. Whether it’s your therapist, your treatment approach, or even a relationship, recognizing that something isn’t a good fit isn’t failure. The goal is to pay attention to what you need, communicate it when possible, and give yourself permission to choose differently when necessary. Tap in Ya'll! Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

It's officially summertime! So we're catchin' up on life and laughing about the reality of trying to control everything. From flat tires and roadside mishaps to the doo doo in the dating pool, we talk about learning when to let go, pivot, and allow other people to help instead of trying to handle every situation ourselves (even though we know we can do it betttter) With summer officially here, the conversation turns to what we call "outsiding" season—and, of course, dating. We debate whether the dating pool has improved (spoiler: we’re still not convinced), share the kinds of people we’re typically attracted to, and discuss whether sticking too closely to a certain "type" can keep us from meeting someone who might actually be a great match. We also dive into interracial and intercultural dating, exploring the difference between personal preference and exclusion. We discuss why cultural understanding can matter deeply in relationships, particularly when it comes to shared experiences as Black Americans, while recognizing that everyone has different values and priorities when choosing a partner. We also reflect on how dating changes as we get older, especially as people become more established in their routines, expectations, and lifestyles. For this week’s Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, our listener shares that social media has left her feeling like she’s wasting her summer while everyone else seems to be traveling, partying, and constantly having fun. She also wants affordable ways to make summer special for herself and her niece and nephew. We talk about the importance of limiting comparison, spending less time scrolling, and getting curious about what actually brings you joy instead of chasing someone else’s version of a good time. We also share practical ways to enjoy the season on a budget, including checking local community calendars, attending free events, trying new hobbies, exploring nearby parks and attractions, and remembering that meaningful memories don't have to come with a big price tag. Sometimes the best summer moments are the simplest ones. 💎 Bottom line—summer doesn't have to look like anyone else's highlight reel to be meaningful. Whether you're navigating dating, redefining your preferences, or simply looking for ways to enjoy the season, focus on experiences that genuinely bring you joy instead of chasing what social media says your life should look like. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Show Intro And Disclaimer 01:12 Life Updates And Letting Go Of Control 06:18 Flat Tires And Missing Spare Tires 10:35 Summer Outsiding Season 14:47 Is The Dating Pool Still Trash? 19:58 Having A Type In Dating 25:46 Dating Preferences And Compatibility 31:22 Interracial And Intercultural Dating 39:10 Dating Gets Harder With Age 45:18 Tap In or Tap Out!? Summer FOMO 49:27 Social Media And Comparison 54:33 Finding Joy Offline 58:41 Affordable Summer Activities 01:03:18 Simple Fun With Kids 01:06:54 Final Thoughts And Wrap Up Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

This episode starts with a Mother’s Day catch-up and a story that sounds straight out of a reality show. Dr. Darby recounts a tense prom lineup encounter that nearly turned into a fight after an unexpected confrontation with a woman in furry boots. Because apparently prom season isn’t stressful enough. We also reflect on Mother’s Day experiences, including the emotional reality of working in crisis counseling and responding to the aftermath of a  mall shooting. We then shift into a deep discussion about fatherhood and what defines a truly good dad. For us, it goes far beyond financial support. We talk about the importance of being present, engaged, loving, protective, and knowing how to provide guidance and discipline without creating fear or distance. From there, we explore how our relationships with our fathers shape the way we date, what we look for in partners, and the emotional needs we carry into adulthood. We discuss the desire for affection, safety, and emotional security—and why being spoken to with kindness and respect matters more than someone trying to lead through authority or control. Sometimes it really comes down to one simple request: talk to me nice. For this week’s Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, a listener asks how to verify a therapist’s qualifications following recent conversations surrounding certain public figures in the mental health space. We break down practical steps for protecting yourself when seeking care, including checking state licensing boards, understanding different license types, verifying educational credentials and doctoral work, using insurance provider directories, and recognizing evasiveness or a lack of transparency as potential red flags. We also discuss the importance of doing your own research, asking questions, and feeling empowered to advocate for yourself when choosing a therapist. Finding the right support is too important to leave to assumptions. 💎 Bottom line—whether it’s parenting, dating, or seeking professional help, trust is built through consistency, transparency, and showing up with care. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, set standards, and choose the people who make you feel safe, respected, and supported. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Show Intro And Disclaimer 01:10 Life Updates And Prom Chaos 04:56 Fur Boots And Fighting Stories 08:20 Mothers Day Recap And Work Call 11:51 Good Dads And Father Figures 17:48 How Dad Shapes Dating Choices 23:56 Talk To Me Nice In Relationships 28:53 Breaking Cycles And Resetting 32:14 Dating With Kids 33:07 What Makes a Good Dad 34:00 Breaking Family Cycles 35:34 Parenting Classes Debate 37:12 Absent Fathers Impact 41:22 Setting Boundaries With Dad 43:23 When Parents Become Grandparents 45:42 Respect Is Earned 49:33 Tap In or Tap Out?! Cheyenne Bryant 52:26 How to Verify Therapists 55:06 Doctorates and Credentials 57:36 Life Coaches vs Licensed Care 59:55 Finding Affordable Therapy 01:02:28 Ask Credentials Up Front 01:04:04 Fathers Day Wrap Up Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

This episode is very much “life is life-ing,” and we’re just trying to keep up. We get into the chaos of parenting in today’s world—from over-the-top prom culture (why is this a full production??) to the emotional and financial weight that comes with raising kids at every stage. As our children get older, the challenges shift, but the responsibility never really goes away. We talk honestly about what it means to be a mom and still be a whole person. That means setting boundaries, not doing things you don’t want to do, and letting go of the idea that motherhood has to equal sacrifice and suffering. Some of us learned that the hard way. There’s also a real conversation about anxiety, self-worth, and that constant feeling of being “not enough,” even when everything looks fine on paper. We break down how anxiety and imposter syndrome show up—not just mentally, but physically—and why support (therapy, medication, even checking your hormones) is nothing to be ashamed of. For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, a listener opens up about struggling with anxiety and the constant feeling of not being “enough,” even when life looks good on paper. We unpack how anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome can overlap—and what it takes to start quieting that inner voice We also touch on relationships, single motherhood, and how life changes force you to redefine yourself over and over again. Through it all, one thing stays true: you can’t pour into anybody else if you’re running on empty. 💎 Bottom line—do what works for you, take care of yourself, and stop trying to be everything for everybody. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:00 Life updates, being sick, and perimenopause brain fog 03:30 Prom season stress and over-the-top expectations 08:30 Marriage, support, and who takes care of mom 13:00 Single motherhood, burnout, and pushing through 16:30 Relationships, cheating, and doing life alone 23:00 Mother’s Day, rest, and letting go of guilt 26:30 Motherhood without martyrdom and asking for help 27:30 Kids growing up and preparing to let go 33:00 Teaching life skills and learning through experience 38:00 The myth of stability and adjusting to life changes 41:00 Identity beyond motherhood and setting boundaries 55:00 Listener question: anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome 01:03:00 Hormones, perimenopause, and mental health shifts 01:08:00 Final thoughts and Mother’s Day encouragement Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Aging, confidence, and evolving identity.. we discuss what it means to grow into yourself—embracing change in your body, mindset, and relationships—while letting go of external validation. Health, wellness, and physical changes are addressed with honesty, including conversations around hormones, memory, and the realities of aging bodies. In this week’s Tap In or Tap Out? segment, the focus shifts to political stress and emotional burnout, as a listener shares there struggle with staying informed vs. staying overloaded and consumed by the woes of the world. We unpack how confidence deepens with age, why community matters more than ever, and how to navigate life transitions with honesty and self-trust. Tap in. https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ Episode Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:59 Patreon and Live Plans 01:43 Birthday Recovery Stories 04:46 New Orleans Trip Recap 06:05 Travel Fears and News 07:41 AI and Fact Checking 08:59 Aging Body and Libido 10:15 Confidence in Your Forties 11:14 Hair and Self Image 16:01 Childhood Roots of Confidence 17:37 Not Caring What People Think 20:01 Work Era Mindset Shift 23:28 Professional Image and Race 26:20 Imposter Syndrome and Privilege 29:28 Pretty Privilege Talk 31:03 Body Confidence Shift 32:05 Family Judgment Culture 37:26 Kindness Over Critique 39:47 Aging Body Surprises 42:23 Girlfriends Keep You Sane 44:32 Do Men Talk Too 48:29 Confidence Changes With Age 51:11 Tap In Listener Question 53:17 Staying Engaged Not Consumed 58:25 Build Community Locally 01:00:00 Prayer And Sign Off   Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

From New Year “resolutions” that last two days to unpacking emotional clutter, shopping habits, control, and the fear of slowing down, we explore what it means to grow older, wiser, and more self-aware—without pretending it’s easy. The conversation moves through themes of productivity, grief, identity shifts, motherhood wounds, friendships changing with life stages, and the realization that many of us were surviving long before we ever learned how to be present.In the Tap In or Tap Out? segment, we speak to a listener navigating guilt, shame, and fear around leaving relationships, setting boundaries, and choosing themselves. The gem: It’s never too late to change, heal, forgive, and reinvent who you are.Tap in.Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:56 New Year's Reflections 03:23 Setting Intentional Goals 04:20 The 12-Week Year Explained 09:50 Challenges of Perimenopause 11:29 Moving and Decluttering 24:43 Aging and Memory 30:43 Navigating Identity/Self-Discovery 31:15 Breaking Free from the Hamster Wheel 31:29 Exploring New Hobbies and Interests 34:09 Adapting to Life Changes and Friendships 38:21 Aging and Health Concerns 44:01 Planning for the Future 52:22 Tap In or Tap Out!? Moving Forward and Self-Forgiveness 01:00:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We open up with a catch-up on life, exhaustion, and transitions—moving homes, shifting work dynamics, and the realities of being high-achieving Black women who are still BLACKITY BLACK! This leads to a deeper conversation about identity, education, and the stereotypes placed on Black professionals, particularly around PhDs, power dynamics, and ego.From there, we turn toward reflection and end-of-year evaluation. We examine what it means to “move softer,” questioning whether rest, boundaries, and doing less truly feel safe when control has long been tied to our survival. High pain tolerance, overfunctioning, and constant productivity can disguise emotional numbness—and that numbness often keeps people trapped in cycles that look productive but feel empty.The metaphor of the hamster wheel becomes central: getting off briefly for rest, self-care, or vacations, but always jumping back on without fundamentally changing the cage itself. The conversation challenges us to consider whether we are truly choosing ourselves—or simply managing burnout while avoiding bigger, scarier changes.In Tap In or Tap Out?, a listener asks how to grieve a living parent—specifically a mother who is emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and resistant to accountability. We discuss grief, reparenting, unrealistic expectations, boundaries, and the painful but necessary process of removing titles in order to see relationships clearly. Choosing peace does not mean carrying hatred, but it may mean accepting who someone is—and deciding how much access they get to you.Change is inevitable, resilience is learned, and community support is essential. Growth doesn’t come from staying comfortable—it comes from stepping into the unknown, trusting yourself, and allowing life to move you forward.Tap in.Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction and Catch-Up02:30 Life Changes, Exhaustion, and Reflection05:45 Black Identity, PhDs, and Stereotypes10:12 Ego, Power Dynamics, and Dating with Advanced Degrees14:20 Control, Softness, and Safety18:45 Letting Go, Fixing, and Overfunctioning24:30 What “Soft Life” Actually Means29:10 Work, Money, and the Pressure to Grind34:55 The Hamster Wheel Metaphor40:15 Comfort vs Growth45:10 Pain Tolerance, Numbness, and Resilience51:20 Faith, Change, and Trusting the Unknown55:00 Tap In or Tap Out?: Grieving a Living Parent01:03:00 Reparenting, Boundaries, and Choosing Peace01:10:30 Final Reflections and Closing Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We kick things off with a wild story about football moms fighting in the stands—sparking a bigger conversation about conflict, communication, and why some people throw hands while others just don’t care enough to fight.From there, we dive deep into sex and sexuality. We unpack the Madonna complex, shifting sex drives in long-term relationships, and the need for open dialogue about fantasies and kinks. We also call out the stigma men face when exploring sexual fluidity or non-traditional interests, and challenge the double standards that continue to police women’s sexuality.This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener question about perimenopause. We share insights on symptoms, the importance of finding a knowledgeable OB/GYN—especially one attuned to Black women’s health experiences—and ways to manage changes through hormone therapy, nutrition, and community support. We close with a reminder that communication and openness are key to navigating both relationships and life transitions.Tap in Ya'll! Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Dr. Welch discusses her path from community counseling to counselor education, her unexpected entry into leadership, and the challenges she faced as a young, Black woman in academia. She reflects on the importance of representation and the impact of being a role model for students.We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, staying grounded, and being loyal—but not to a fault..learning to move on when situations no longer serve you.This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener question about work-life balance, emphasizing the importance of scheduling rest, defining personal self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking support from your community.Advice for Listeners:Stay grounded and know your "north star."Surround yourself with honest, supportive people.Set boundaries and schedule self-care.Don’t be afraid to outsource tasks to make life easier.*Remember: jobs can replace you, so prioritize your well-being.*Metoka L. Welch is a seasoned higher-ed leader who’s spent 20  years building inclusive, learner-centered institutions. With deep expertise in accreditation, academic strategy, and experiential teaching, she’s known for shaping policies that stick and collaborations that matter. Whether in conference rooms or the classroom, Metoka brings heart, vision, and a fierce commitment to equity.Follow more of Dr. Metoka Welch here:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/metokafitness?igsh=Ympoa3lkcTRtaGZxLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/metoka-l-welch-phd-lcmhc-1596bb96?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_appEpisode Chapters:00:00 Intro01:02 Guest Intro - Dr. Metoka Welch02:18 Career Path & Leadership Journey05:02 Transition into Leadership Role11:09 Career Challenges & Identity36:09 Personal Practices & Staying Grounded38:58 Dream Dinner Guest - Maya Angelou44:53 Key Takeaways & Never Give Up48:37 Tap in or Tap Out?  Work-Life Balance55:40 Closing Thoughts & Goodbye Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We break down the fine line between respect and disrespect, and how misunderstandings around the two can lead to real conflict. We talk about the importance of open communication, setting and honoring boundaries, and how gender roles, masculinity, and our upbringing shape our definition of respect.This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener trying to find themselves again after a tough breakup. We share our thoughts on self-discovery, healing, and stepping into the next chapter with confidence.Tap in!Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:00 Season Update and Summer Plans03:14 Respect vs. Disrespect in Relationships04:39 Subjectivity of Respect09:56 Respect in Familial and Romantic Relationships18:05 Boundaries and Respect27:50 Communication in Relationships28:10 Understanding Double Standards29:31 Defining Disrespect31:55 Insecurity and Disrespect41:37 The Importance of Integrity42:22 Toxic Relationships47:26 Tap in or Tap Out?: Starting Over After a Breakup53:31 Conclusion and Farewell Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Welcoming our first ever guest Dr. Roseina Britton to the podcast! Fun and light-hearted, while deeply centered, Dr. Britton gives us a lot of gems in this conversation. She shares her journey through personal loss, challenges in achieving licensure, and her dedication to healing and empowerment. Also gives us the recipe of her self-care rituals, the importance of mentorship, and breaking societal norms around sexuality. Tap in!Dr. Roseina Britton is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with a strong academic foundation and a passion for advocacy and education. She earned her BA and MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from North Carolina A&T State University and completed her Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of Iowa. Dr. Britton has contributed to the field through publications in textbooks and peer-reviewed journals and has presented at national and regional conferences on topics including sexual health, sex positivity, and HIV awareness and stigma.Follow more of Dr. Roseina Britton here:https://www.serenityhealingcc.com/https://thedsmpodcast.podbean.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.b_shawty/ Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Tap In with Tiffany01:03 Meet Dr. Roseina Britton01:48 The DSM Podcast and Other Ventures03:59 Passion for HIV Awareness05:43 Sexuality and Societal Norms12:24 Rosei's Personal Journey with HIV19:00 Challenges in the Path to Licensure28:55 Affirmations and Self-Pep Talks29:52 Questioning Career Choices30:24 Advice and Mentorship31:32 The Importance of Rest and Relaxation32:23 Misconceptions and Personal Life45:03 Bucket Lists and Risk-Taking52:35 Final Thoughts  Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Welcome to Warm Girl Summer! We are discussing recent travels to Costa Rica and Antigua, sharing highlights and the dynamics of group travel. We give our two cents on dating, the complexities of modern relationships, and the importance of maintaining one's peace, even if it means facing challenges in a partnership. Lastly, we touch upon empathy in relationships, the challenges of setting boundaries, and the impact of societal and political climates on dating.  This week's 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's question on solo traveling, suggesting safe and enjoyable destinations.Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer01:03 Weather and Travel Plans01:28 Travel Experiences: Costa Rica and Antigua02:38 Upcoming Trips and Group Travel Dynamics12:00 Warm Girl Summer13:29 Dating and Relationships in Today's Climate21:18 Therapists' Perspective on Relationships23:33 Setting Boundaries in Relationships24:12 High Pain Tolerance and Its Consequences25:10 Learned Behaviors and Sacrifices26:43 The Struggles of Keeping Peace30:06 Financial Constraints in Relationships34:02 Therapists' Perspective on Change35:27 Evaluating Relationship Dynamics37:38 The Fear of the Unknown39:36 The Importance of Girlfriends40:47 Exploring Polyamory and Cheating42:49 Finding Your Peace43:26 Tap In or Tap Out?: Solo Travel Tips Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In this episode, we explore importance of sisterhood, specifically sororities, and the benefit of hard work, showing up, community service, plus addressing competition and balancing personal pride with humility within these organizations. At the end of the day, a sorority is not for everybody, and you gotta put the work in to reap the rewards.This week's 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a listener asking about bonding with their first child (thats still in the womb) and how to be a supportive partner, pre, during, and post birth.Tap in!Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:20 Discussing Sisterhood and Sororities02:52 Personal Experiences with Sororities08:55 Challenges and Misconceptions15:41 The Importance of Community and Service41:11 Listener Question: Parenting Tips51:34 Closing Remarks and Contact Information00:00 Introduction and Welcome01:20 Discussing Sisterhood and Sororities02:52 Personal Experiences with Sororities05:52 Challenges and Misconceptions08:28 The Importance of Community and Support41:11 Tap in or Tap Out?: Bonding with Your Baby42:39 Parenting Tips and Advice51:34 Closing Remarks Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

As the circus continues in the U.S. of A.. we are exploring the idea of possibly moving abroad for a better quality of life. We also can't help but discuss the social political climates, and reflecting on white and black protest dynamics. Spoiler: We are sitting this one out. We also weigh in on the potential implications of AI technology in academia and therapy, voicing both advantages and ethical concerns...ie having a AI side piece?? Really?This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about having a crush on a coworker who's already in a committed relationship, offering cautionary advice on handling workplace romances.Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany00:57 Catching Up: Life Updates and Vacations01:45 Cruise Experiences: Carnival vs. Royal Caribbean04:20 Social Commentary: Protests and Double Standards05:25 Celebrating Achievements: Graduation and Counseling06:32 Vacation Plans: Costa Rica and Beyond07:12 Living Abroad: The Expat Life18:56 Navigating Social Media and News20:08 Consumer Choices and Economic Impact28:39 A1 and the Education Department29:36 Stephen A and Trump: A Bizarre Interview31:32 AI in Education: Challenges and Adaptations39:15 AI Relationships and Therapy54:08 Listener Dilemma: Workplace Crush59:34 Conclusion and Farewell Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Join us as we dive into the challenges of modern parenting, including the emotional and financial toll of raising active children. We explore the intersection of technology with everyday life, discussing its impact on mental health, communication skills, and the shifting dynamics of AI in therapy. The 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a listener seeking advice on balancing parenting with self-care. The emphasizing the importance of community support and the myth of having to be the 'perfect' strong parent. Get ready for a blend of heartfelt advice, humor, and deep reflections on life and parenthood. Tap in!Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany 01:00 Life Be Lifin': Parenting Woes 02:18 Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges 05:27 The Impact of Technology on Parenting 08:58 The Human Experience in a Digital World 24:39 AI and the Future of Therapy 33:53 Reflecting on a Blackout Experience 34:17 Adapting to Life Without Technology 34:38 Office Life Without Internet 36:59 Conspiracy Theories and Election Integrity 38:59 The Importance of Paper Records 40:34 The Vulnerability of Modern Infrastructure 42:51 The Role of DEI in Schools and Workplaces 51:11 Challenges of Black-Owned Businesses 54:41 TAP IN OR TAP OUT? Balancing Parenthood and Self-Care 1:07:16 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Navigating Relationships, Intimacy, and Personal BoundariesWe start with a lively discussion about the shifts that occur in relationships over time and how to address emotional changes. We also explore the challenges of maintaining intimacy and communication in relationships, touching on topics like love languages, managing expectations, and the importance of small, consistent gestures. We explore the continuous need for self-development, from being more intentional in relationships to tackling the natural shifts that happen over time, especially during mid-life. The 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment this week addresses a listener's concern about fading attentiveness in a romantic relationship and offers insights on how to navigate this sensitive issue. This episode is a mix of serious relationship advice, humor, and some unapologetically honest opinions. Tap in!Episode Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:58 Current Events and Michelle Obama02:21 Break Time Stories05:01 Words for the Year06:58 Relationships, Sex, and Dating12:52 Expectations in Relationships25:23 Intimacy and Emotional Connection28:33 Control Issues and Letting Go30:46 Navigating Trust in Relationships31:07 Proving Yourself in a Partnership31:27 Handling Small Tasks in Relationships35:13 Building Intimacy Beyond Sex37:42 Understanding Love Languages45:56 Dealing with Relationship Changes52:02 Listener's Relationship Dilemma01:01:21 Closing Thoughts and Farewell Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We are breakin down men's health from various angles. We share our views on physical health, the importance of regular check-ups, and societal pressures that prevent men -especially black ones- from seeking necessary medical care. We also explore mental health challenges, particularly focusing on the emotional struggles black men face and the stigma around seeking therapy. Additionally, we reflect on our first year of podcasting, discussing our experiences, favorite moments, and aspirations for the future. The 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about feeling conflicted between staying at a stressful job to support black students or seeking a new opportunity for personal well-being. Join us as we wrap up the season with valuable insights and heartfelt advice.Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany01:03 Season Finale Announcement01:23 Let's Talk About Men02:54 Men and Self-Care06:33 Physical Health and Doctor Visits20:02 Mental Health and Emotional Well-being31:12 Understanding Emotions Through Therapy31:46 The Struggles of Men Expressing Emotions34:04 Teaching Boys About Emotions36:46 Balancing Emotional Intelligence and Toughness39:33 Navigating Relationships and Respect46:25 The Importance of Environment and Role Models47:36 Encouragement and Self-Care for Black Men50:01 Reflecting on the Podcast Journey56:12 Listener's Dilemma: Job Satisfaction vs. Impact  Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In this episode, we explore the complexities of holiday traditions, family dynamics, and creating new norms. We share personal stories about shifting holiday celebrations, the impact of losing family matriarchs, and the challenges of maintaining family bonds. We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries with relatives, the transition after divorce, and the concept of chosen family. This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's dilemma about balancing shopping habits with financial responsibility. Join us as we navigate the joys and struggles of holidays and offer insights into fostering healthier, happier celebrations. Tap in with [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany 01:12 Funny Stories  04:41 Holiday Season and Family Traditions 06:52 Changing Family Dynamics and Grief 20:39 Creating New Traditions and Boundaries 34:02 Navigating Family Dynamics 36:30 Balancing Holiday Visits 39:38 Creating New Traditions 46:31 The Impact of Loss on Holidays 59:40 Tap in or Tap Out!? : Shopping Habits 01:07:58 Wrapping Up  Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Let's get into the complexities of managing wealth and finances. We share our personal relationships with money, financial upbringings, and navigating the psychological aspects of money management. We touch on some strategies for financial literacy, budgeting, and maintaining stability while managing debt and investments. We also discuss modern self-care practices like hiring help and grocery deliveries, highlighting the value they bring to our lives. Additionally, we emphasize teaching generational wealth and multiple income streams, focusing on practical advice for parents. Join us as we share insights on balancing professional and personal roles, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and investing in financial security for the future.This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener question about keeping boundaries tight as a therapist, when friends and family wanna hit you up for some free therapy. Hint: Its Still NO :)Want to have your question featured on the show? Tap in with [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Health Talk01:00 Colonoscopy Experiences02:23 Alternative Preparations04:05 Post-Procedure Reflections05:47 Transition to Money Talk06:05 Personal Relationships with Money08:19 Childhood Financial Lessons10:32 Financial Planning and Education11:48 Spending Habits and Self-Care14:43 Budgeting and Debt Management18:24 Cultural Perspectives on Money29:06 Household Services and Perceptions30:42 The Value of Convenience Services31:39 Breaking the Stigma Around Hiring Help37:11 Generational Wealth and Land Ownership39:37 Teaching Financial Literacy to Kids42:16 Managing Finances and Savings53:12 Setting Boundaries as a Therapist01:01:03 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In this episode, we discuss our complex work lives, juggling multiple jobs in private practice, teaching, and supervision, and highlight our commitment to financial stability and professional growth. We also -as usual- talk about setting boundaries, the evolution of our career goals, and the hesitation about leadership roles.  This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's question about merging old and new friendships, and  we offer up some insights into on navigating these dynamics.Tap in with [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany01:00 Catching Up: Life Updates and Challenges01:41 Navigating Parenting and Teen Drivers06:50 Balancing Multiple Jobs and Careers15:41 The Importance of Financial Independence28:07 Setting Boundaries at Work28:36 Leadership and Management Challenges34:40 Worst Job Experiences39:41 Balancing Work and Personal Life49:52 Navigating Adult Friendships59:24 Conclusion and Listener Interaction Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We start out discussing a restorative trip to Jamaica, emphasizing the importance of choosing compatible travel companions. Then we move into a discussion about our career paths as therapists, highlighting the different experiences and motivations that led us into the field. We explore the differences between counseling and psychology, including the varied training and specialties within the professions. We also cover the most common barriers to seeking therapy, including the significance of readiness, financial considerations, and overcoming stigma, particularly within the black community. We offer guidance for individuals seeking therapy, including how to find a therapist (hint: good ol' GOOGLE) and what questions to ask. We emphasize the importance of understanding a therapist's credentials and specialties to ensure a good fit. This episode's Tap In or Tap Out' segment answers a listener question about what aspects of our upbringing do we bring into -or consciously drop- from our toolbox as we raise our own children.Tap in with [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany01:03 Summer Adventures and Travel Tips01:47 Navigating Group Travel Dynamics04:11 Therapy Talk: Our Journeys into the Field11:28 Understanding Counseling vs. Psychology15:56 Finding the Right Therapist for You24:48 Working with Different Client Populations31:42 The Value of Personal Experience in Counseling32:31 Challenges in Substance Use Counseling35:34 Understanding Client Needs and Boundaries38:15 Barriers to Starting Therapy42:58 The Importance of Long-Term Therapy48:49 Finding the Right Therapist52:53 Tap In or Tap Out? Parenting: Lessons and Reflections01:02:07 Conclusion Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In episode 7, we compare the experiences of raising an only child versus multiple children and discuss the uniqueness of raising boys. The conversation expands to address gender expectations, balancing emotional intelligence with raising resilient boys, and the challenges of co-parenting with differing philosophies. We also explore how modern-day access to information influences parenting and the constant worry parents face as their children grow older, especially as the mother of black boys and young men. This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a listener's dilemma regarding setting boundaries with an estranged father who wants to reconnect with his daughter and grandchildren, prompting a heartfelt discussion about forgiveness, healing, and establishing boundaries.Tap in with [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany01:00 Parenting: Only Child vs. Multiple Children04:53 Gender Expectations and Realities11:22 Balancing Emotions and Masculinity19:28 Unexpected Parenting Challenges25:04 Navigating Parenting Challenges with Girls27:31 The Anxiety of Raising Black Boys31:28 The Impact of Social Media on Today's Youth34:16 Balancing Parental Guidance and Independence35:49 The Complexities of Adult Children Relationships40:48 Tap In or Tap Out?: Setting Boundaries with a Hurtful Parent50:07 Conclusion and Farewell Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

We are exploring the complexities of relationships with parents, particularly focusing on the Boomer generation. We share personal anecdotes about our upbringings, parental challenges, and the effect of our parents' behaviors - for better or worse- on our own lives. The conversation also touches on the emotional labor of caregiving, setting boundaries, and understanding intergenerational trauma. This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a question from a self-proclaimed "Therapy Skeptic" asking about who therapy is for, the potential benefits, and how to find the right therapist for you. We feel like a lot of ya'll might be in the same place, so tap in and find out our take on how therapy might benefit you, if you are ready.Tap in with us: [email protected] Chapters:00:01 Introduction and Episode Kickoff00:29 Discussing the Boomer Generation02:08 Parental Influence and Personal Experiences05:02 Growing Up with Single Parents07:50 Father's Absence and Impact17:14 Reconnecting with Biological Father23:56 Generational Differences and Family Dynamics32:49 Caring for Aging Parents36:18 Setting Boundaries with Family36:35 Cognitive Changes in Aging Parents37:53 Generational Differences in Caregiving38:52 Dealing with Difficult Parent-Child Relationships41:14 The Importance of Self-Care for Caregivers44:13 Navigating Parental Aging and Health Issues46:20 Lessons Learned from Parents57:58 Tap in or Tap Out?!? Finding the Right Therapist Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Episode 5 is exploring self-care, emphasizing its personal nature and the importance of daily practices alongside larger goals. We debunk the misconception that self-care is selfish, arguing that it is critical for overall health and well-being. Various aspects of self-care are discussed, including physical, spiritual, mental, and interpersonal wellness. The conversation also covers the importance of rest, routine, and preventative healthcare as forms of self-care. We share personal experiences to illustrate the challenges and joys of establishing consistent self-care practices in our lives, and how that may start to change as we get older.This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? features a listener's question about the dynamics of friendship in the workplace, and conflicts she has experienced. We acknowledge that while shared experiences as Black women can create a sense of community, individual differences may lead to varying workplace dynamics. Our discussion highlights the value of openness but also the reality that not all interactions will lead to close connections, reminding the listener that its always on a case by case basis, and how it may not always be "Black Girl Magic" when it comes to working with other black women.Tap in with us: [email protected] Chapters:00:06 Welcome Back and Today's Hot Topic: Self Care00:27 The Essence and Individuality of Self Care01:46 Self Care Isn't Selfish: A Deep Dive03:43 Exploring the Multifaceted Nature of Self Care05:18 Physical and Mental Wellness: A Holistic Approach06:37 Daily Self Care Routines and Their Impact26:16 The Importance of Physical Activity and Nutrition28:57 Exploring Self Pleasure and Body Awareness33:48 Embracing Solo Travel: A Journey of Self-Discovery34:05 The Solo Travel Experience: From Podcast Inspirations to Personal Reflections35:06 Exploring the World Alone: The Freedom and Fear of Solo Travel36:12 The Unexpected Joy of Accidental Solo Travel38:26 Self-Care Through Solo Staycations: The Luxury of Being Alone39:50 Evolving Self-Care Routines: From Party Nights to Peaceful Nights46:28  TAP IN OR TAP OUT!! : Navigating Workplace Relationships47:39 The Other Black Girl: Workplace Dynamics Among Black Women01:02:10 Closing Thoughts: Embracing Individuality in Professional Spaces Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

Navigating Friendships and Boundaries in RelationshipWe dive into the complexities of friendships, both old and new, and how to set healthy boundaries within those relationships. We share personal experiences and challenges with blending friends from different stages of life and how they manage expectations and dynamics within those groups. The discussion also covers the difficulty of forming new friendships in adulthood, the impact of jealousy, and the importance of reciprocal relationships. We also touch on the impact of slavery and Eurocentric models that lead to modern day conflict and resource hoarding in the black community.This episode's Tap In or Tap Out? featuring a listener's question about dealing with financial exploitation by a sibling leads to advice on asserting oneself and communicating needs effectively to establish boundaries. The episode emphasizes the significance of self-awareness, open communication, and the courage to maintain one's well-being in all relationships.Chapters:00:06 Welcome Back & Episode Intro00:48 Vacation Tales: The Cruise Experience05:06 Navigating Friendships Over Time06:29 The Dynamics of Long-Term Friendships14:16 Addressing Challenges in Friendships19:55 Jealousy and Competition Among Friends28:30 Sharing Success and Opportunities32:20 Navigating Competition and Collaboration33:15 The Impact of Capitalism on Personal Relationships35:19 Mentorship and Its Value in Personal Growth36:28 Exploring the Dynamics of New and Old Friendships50:02 The Art of Blending Friend Groups55:43 Setting Boundaries in Relationships Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In this episode we dive into the importance of setting boundaries  in all spheres of life, including relationships with partners, friends, and family members. The conversation highlights the struggles and significance of asserting oneself to maintain mental health and peace, and touches on the complexity of adult friendships, the impact of life changes on relationship dynamics, and the necessity of reciprocal relationships and clear communication.  00:05 Welcome to Tap In with Tiffany!00:42 Feedback and Growth: Our Journey So Far01:22 Deep Dive into Boundaries: Why They Matter01:48 The Struggle with Setting Boundaries in Relationships02:44 Age, Experience, and Understanding Boundaries08:35 Navigating Boundaries in Black Families16:01 The Challenge of Changing Family Dynamics22:08 Friendships and Boundaries: Finding Balance22:51 Embracing Reciprocal Relationships24:38 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Relationships26:56 Navigating Boundaries in Personal Relationships27:22 The Complexities of Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships30:03 Adjusting Boundaries Over Time and the Importance of Communication37:56 Life Changes and Their Impact on Boundaries44:39 Maintaining Individuality and Friendships in Relationships50:11 TAP IN OR TAP OUT: Navigating Friendship and Dating Boundaries57:15 Closing Thoughts and Looking Ahead Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In this episode, we dive into the topic of embracing the soft girl era and what it means for us. We explore how self-care and setting boundaries is crucial, and discuss how this concept affects women, especially black women, and highlight the importance of resilience amidst life's challenges. The conversation touches on navigating the balance between enjoying modern luxuries and cultivating inner strength. We share insights into making life more enjoyable while staying true to yourself...From hiring help to indulging in massages, or booking a private yacht..Tune in for a candid discussion on finding what works best for you and living your best life!Tap in with us: [email protected] Chapters00:05 Introduction: Meet the Tiffanys00:51 The Soft Girl Era: A Discussion02:25 The Struggle: Navigating the Hardships03:51 The Transition: From Hard to Soft06:11 The Generational Gap: Gen Z vs. Millennials07:19 The Importance of Boundaries17:39 The Luxury of Delegation: Housekeeping and More25:55 The Future: Preparing the Next Generation28:08 Understanding the Cost of Comfort28:35 Embracing Convenience Services29:12 The Desire for Domesticity29:58 The Luxury of Massages and Yacht Charters31:12 Dreaming of Private Jet Travel31:46 Listener Questions: Teaching Empathy and Resilience46:46 The Reality of Being an Influencer50:41 The Privilege of Travel and Teaching Empathy52:36 Closing Thoughts: The Balance of Giving and Teaching Gratitude Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

In today's episode, we dive in to the topic of relationships, focusing on conflict resolution, communication, boundaries, and expectations. We break down the importance of self-awareness, clear communication, respect, and setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. Tap in with us: [email protected] Chapters:00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer00:41 Meet the Therapists: Personal and Professional Backgrounds01:22 The Importance of Individuality in Relationships04:18 The Power of Friendship in Relationships05:57 The Role of Therapy in Relationships08:37 The Challenges and Rewards of Marriage15:25 The Complexities of Dating in the Modern Age22:10 The Impact of Unspoken Expectations in Relationships27:15 The Importance of Conflict Resolution in Relationships32:46 Divorce and Its Impact on Children32:52 Personal Experiences with Divorce33:44 The Role of Empathy in Conflict Resolution34:17 The Impact of Parental Divorce on Personal Relationships35:13 The Struggle of Conflict Resolution in Relationships35:57 The Importance of Effective Communication in Relationships37:05 The Challenge of Balancing Personal Traits in Relationships37:53 The Role of Conflict Resolution Styles in Relationships39:48 The Impact of Conflict on Relationships40:54 The Struggle of Setting Boundaries in Relationships47:12 The Importance of Effective Communication with Children49:00 The Challenge of Managing Expectations in Relationships52:15 The Role of Respect in Conflict Resolution56:10 The Importance of Understanding and Meeting Expectations in Relationships59:47 The Struggle of Balancing Personal and Relationship Expectations01:02:39 Conclusion: The Importance of Open Communication and Understanding in Relationships Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairstonhttps://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/[email protected] Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts