Red Flags, Self-Abandonment & Sacred Grieving: How to Reclaim Self-Trust After Separation, Trauma & High-Conflict Relationships with Chavisa Horemans.

There’s a moment, sometimes quiet, sometimes seismic, when you realise you’ve been overriding yourself for years. You said yes when your body whispered no. You dismissed the niggling feeling. You explained away the red flags. You told yourself it wasn’t “that bad.” And now you’re exhausted. In this deeply powerful conversation, I sit down with Chavisa Horemans, a Trauma-Informed  Divorce, Co-parenting, and Chronic health coach for women going through major life transitions, and we talk about what happens when women finally come home to themselves, after abuse, after coercion, and after years of self-abandonment. We explore: The subtle red flags most women are conditioned to ignore Why having sex when you’re “not in the mood” can be a warning sign Post-separation abuse and hidden power dynamics The difference between transforming trauma and transmitting it Sacred grieving as a path to radical self-trust How patriarchy disconnects women from their intuition And what it really means to rebuild your relationship with yourself after everything falls apart This episode is for you if you've ever felt like something isn’t right but haven't been able to find the words to articulate it. Or if you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, high-conflict relationships, or a season of high complexity. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I trust this feeling?” This conversation is your answer. You can. And you must. Let this conversation be the beginning of your return.     ===   GUEST LINKS:   Website: https://www.themothercorp.com/    Red Flag Workshop: https://www.themothercorp.com/learn-red-flags    Secure end-to-end encrypted Email:  [email protected]   . ===   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/   •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.