Regulation as Capacity Not Constant Calm with Rebekah Ballagh

What if understanding your patterns is not the same as changing them?In this episode, I’m joined by Rebekah Ballagh, a counsellor, somatic and nervous system coach, and author, to explore the gap between insight and real change. The place where the mind understands, but the body does not yet feel safe enough to follow.Rebekah shares her experience with panic and illness, and how it revealed the limits of purely cognitive tools. We talk about intellectualising as a form of protection, and explore parts work through the lens of Internal Family Systems, especially the tension between the part that wants to heal and the part that resists.We also look at the swing between anxiety and freeze, and how patterns that look like avoidance or laziness are often rooted in survival. From there, we unpack somatic practices, what actually works, and why regulation is not about being calm, but about building capacity to stay with what is real.If you have ever felt stuck despite doing all the work, this conversation offers a more compassionate and embodied way forward.In this episode:3:53 What Being In Your Body Means 9:45 When Therapy Training Helps And Hurts16:17 Working With The Intellectualiser21:00 Parts Work And IFS Made Simple29:50 Somatics Online And Lost Nuance39:41 Pendulation Titration And Minimum Dose 47:23 Nothing Is Broken In You49:16 Closing Reflections And Inbody InvitationYou can read the full transcript here.Learn more about Ailey Jolie:Find: WebsiteFollow: InstagramExplore: SubstackExperience: Insight TimerSign up: InBodyMethodEmail: [email protected] follow along with the In This Body podcast:Follow: InstagramFind: WebsiteEmail: [email protected]