Relational Coach: IDK
from Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life Hosted by Michelle Burkhard
There is a difference between making someone feel safe andmaking sure they never feel uncomfortable. That distinction matters. When someone we care about is struggling, our instinct maybe to rescue them. We reassure. We soften. We fill the silence. We try to make the uncomfortable feeling disappear. But sometimes discomfort is doing important work. Maybe the person already knows they need to say no. Maybethey know a boundary needs to be created. Maybe they are afraid of disappointing someone. Maybe they have spent so much of their life being the person everyone can count on that they are not quite sure who they would be without that role. Those realizations can be uncomfortable. They can also beincredibly important. Perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can give another personis enough safety to sit with what is uncomfortable without rushing to take it away. Sometimes we do not need to rescue. Sometimes we simply need to stay. [email protected] CA.Growby1.com Reflection Questions How do I communicate safety when another person doesn’timmediately have an answer? How comfortable am I allowing someone to experiencediscomfort without rescuing them? When might my desire to make someone else comfortableactually interrupt their growth? How well do I allow silence to do some of the work in animportant conversation? What could become possible if I trusted the relationshipenough to give an answer time to emerge?
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