Relational Coach: What Should I Do?
from Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life Hosted by Michelle Burkhard
When someone asks, “What do you think I should do?” they may not actually be asking you to make the decision. They might be asking for reassurance, permission, certainty, encouragement, or simply a safe place to say what they are really thinking. In today’s episode, Michelle explores what happens when that question meets the Relational Coach. Trust and connection can create the safety someone needs to be honest, especially when what they want is different fromwhat they think they should want. But there is an important balance here. The stronger the relationship, the more weight our opinions can carry. Sometimes the most supportive thing we can do is not give someone an answer, but createenough safety for them to hear their own. Questions or comments? I’d love to hear from you! [email protected] Reflection Questions When someone asks me what I think they should do, howquickly do I assume they are actually asking for advice? How well do I listen for the need underneath the question,such as reassurance, permission, certainty, support, or simply a place to think out loud? When I care deeply about someone, am I ever tempted torescue them from the discomfort of making their own difficult decision? How might the trust someone places in me increase theinfluence of even a casual comment or opinion I share? How can I create a relationship that feels safe enough forsomeone to become more confident in hearing and trusting their own voice?
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