S03E05 About Shame

“Shame is a soul eating emotion,” Carl Yung. Shame is carried down generation to generation, as caregivers act in familiar and shameless ways towards their children, and their children then carry this shame and act shamelessly themselves. Shame kills. It is a silent killer that thrives in silence, secrecy, it tells us to hide ourselves, our stories, our vulnerability, our authenticity, our feelings. It stifles creativity, vulnerability and self expression. It tells us to hide, and die. Shame cannot survive in connection, when spoken out loud, when shared with a caring other. Authenticity is the most powerful electromagnetic feeling in our heart and shame is the lowest vibration. Love truly does win over shame, if we allow it to move through us, and we free ourselves to share our shame. Shame lives in the nervous system, causing exhaustion, discomfort and disease. As we allow ourselves to feel, we develop our capacity to move out of stress and into our natural state of rest and digest. We come home to our self when we allow ourselves to feel and heal our shame. We feel safe when we are truthful, honest and open with ourselves, and others. It is vital we talk about shame so that we can live freely, peacefully, fully and gently. It is vital to unpack shame so we can love and be loved, we can connect, no longer driven by performance, external validation and a desperation to impress others. I love hearing from you all so much, please keep sharing your thoughts, your stories, your questions and all coaching and speaking enquiries. The email address is [email protected] See you next week, Miranda x