S03E08: Malvika gaur on being more than a queer brown person in a life-partnership

Send us Fan MailGrowing up in New Delhi as the youngest of the 3 daughters in a “normal” Indian family, Malvika always knew she was different than her sisters and people around. From wanting to wear a tuxedo to a wedding as a child to owning her “tom-boyish” identity as a teenager, Malvika didn’t wake up one day and come out to herself, her family or the world. She became who she is, by carefully exploring parts of her identity- sexual and otherwise, while not jumping to conclusions and labels! While her personal life was a slow exploration, her academic and professional life couldn’t be far from slow with studying computer science, doing her MBA at a top business school, working at world renowned companies like Google and Meta, moving between India, US and Singapore. Only like a techie can, she compartmentalized her life always ensuring she doesn’t let her identity as a queer person take over her life or become entirely WHO SHE IS. She knew she’s much more than a queer brown person! She also has some great advice for anyone thinking about coming out- getting the right timing is critical, she says. Anyway, somewhere in the middle of this hustle and exploration, she met the love of her life- Ranisha- a Malaysian and Indian origin Singaporean who couldn’t be more different from Malvika, yet everything about her was SOOO familiar. What happened when they finally decided to be together, right before Malvika was moving away from Singapore and the pandemic hit? Listen in to find out..Do comment with your learnings from their relationship for heteronormative relationships. Please feel free to reach out to us if you want to talk about any of the issues mentioned in the episode. We are here to help you find the right resources.Support the show