S1 E46 ADHD Women & Borrowed Things | Why We Forget to Return Things

Have you ever borrowed something with every intention of giving it back... only to find it months or years later? In this episode, Jess and Jeannine explore why borrowed books, favorite mugs, casserole dishes, tools, and even money can become surprisingly complicated for women with ADHD. What starts as good intentions often turns into forgotten items, overwhelming guilt, misunderstood relationships, and the feeling that you've accidentally let someone down. Together, they talk about executive function, time blindness, forgetfulness, object permanence, urgency, and why returning something is never as simple as it sounds. They also explore the emotional side of borrowing from the stories we tell ourselves after a late ADHD diagnosis to the grace we hope others will extend when our intentions don't match the outcome. If you've ever discovered someone else's belongings in your house years later, avoided returning something because you forgot where you put it, or wondered why "I'll do it later" somehow turned into never, this conversation is for you. In this episode, Jess & Jeannine discuss: Why ADHD women forget to return borrowed things Executive function, time blindness, and everyday forgetfulness Why urgency helps us borrow but not return Favorite objects, emotional attachment, and ADHD relationships Borrowing money, boundaries, and avoiding unnecessary conflict Learning to replace self-judgment with understanding after a late ADHD diagnosis If this episode made you think about someone you've borrowed from or someone who's still carrying around your favorite mug share it with them. Sometimes understanding each other is worth a lot more than whatever got left behind.