S3 Ep12: Choice is Your Superpower

Choice is your superpower – even when your choices suck When it comes to anything – and mostly everything – about your life, you always have choices. The vast majority are made automatically, by rote and routine. They become habits – which then embed themselves into your subconscious. While less-desirable choices might be your only options – they are still options and thus choices to be made. Even lesser choices made are better than none. Because the more you actively choose things for your life, the more empowered you are. Why are choices empowering? The way society works today, you are encouraged to live by rote and routine frequently. Lots of the messages you receive tell you that you have no choices – or, worse, that choosing wrong will cause you pain and/or suffering. Hence, it often looks like making no choice would be better than making a wrong choice. But not choosing disempowers you. Because you’ve ceded your ability to have control over a given situation. You always have choices – and being mindful and actively consciously aware will show this to you. Deciding not to decide is still a choice Yes, you can look at the choices before you and see nothing but lousy or undesirable options. That could lead you to decide not to decide. And that, too, is a choice. Of a sort. However – it disempowers you. Why? Because you’ve not made a choice and ceded what power and control you have to the ethers. The power of choice is control. The truth of almost all lack and scarcity is that it’s artificial. There’s almost always unlimited pie for everyone – and more. Make choices and be empowered Even a choice between the lesser of two evils is better made than unmade. That’s because making choices is the same as increasing muscle mass. The more you choose, the more choices you get. Finally – you are worthy and deserving of the power of choice. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Choices empower you to direct your life and live with greater contentment and joy. I don’t know about you, but I always feel stronger, better, and more in control of my life when I make choices than when I don’t. This week’s Applied Guidance for Mindfulness Tool: This week’s tool uses the power of choice. Use this superpower during the next week in any or all of the following ways: ·        When your partner or a friend/family member asks, “What do you want to do?” make the choice, rather than saying “Whatever” or telling them to choose. ·        When ordering food – choose within one minute of looking at the menu. Don’t overthink the choices – just choose. ·        Don’t hit snooze on your alarm – make the choice to get out of bed as soon as it goes off. ·        When faced with any other choices to make, don’t hesitate, don’t pass them off – choose, and do so decisively. Recognize that you might get it wrong sometimes. But note how much better you feel when you are actively mindful and making choices. Also, note the sense of control this gives you.   Author Website Email Instagram Facebook LinkedIn TikTok Blogs: titaniumdon.com and mjblehart.medium.com Cover artist Fe Mahoney: https://www.etsy.com/shop/TaliasInspirations