S3 EP3: Why People Get Uncomfortable When Couples Do Things Differently | Yalla Habibi Podcast

We ask whether couples really need to agree on everything, and what happens when the way you live, socialise and set boundaries doesn’t fit what everyone else expects. Drawing on our own experience of going against five social norms, we share practical lessons on supporting each other, dealing with FOMO, recognising each other’s triggers and standing firm when people test our boundaries. We also explore why challenging the status quo can make people uncomfortable, and whether making a relationship work is less about agreeing on everything and more about building a life that works for the two people actually living it.In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we uncover the bizarre phenomenon of “pluralistic ignorance” and why we sometimes do things simply because we think everyone else wants to, while “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” reveals a surprisingly reassuring reason you might be more comfortable saying no than you think.Chapters(05:23) – How We Challenge 5 Social Norms as a Couple(19:38) – What Can Other Couples Take From This Series?(25:06) – Would We Do It Again? (25:51) – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”(31:45) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Why Saying No Just Got EasierRecommended EpisodesLook for titles starting with S1 or S2 to find other series across all podcast platforms. 📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠Stories SharedScott's WTF of the Week: 🤯 Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”🔗Additional ReferenceShelby’s Good Vibes Only: 🚫 Why Saying No Just Got Easier🔗⁠Additional Reference⁠---------------------------------------------------------------SubscribeIf you have ever enjoyed any of these episodes, could we ask you to please consider any or all of these: Subscribe, Follow, Like, Share and leave a short Review? It takes less than a minute and makes a huge difference in helping to spread the word about the show and also to convince some hard-to-get guests.- "Yalla Habibi - Let’s go, my friend!"Watch Our Shorts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠---------------------------------------------------------------Transcript Keyword SummaryRelationship Differences, Setting Boundaries, Social Norms, Relationship Boundaries, Healthy Relationships, Relationship Advice, Couple Communication, Dealing With FOMO, Fear of Missing Out, Saying No, People Pleasing, Social Pressure, Conformity, Relationship Conflict, Personal Boundaries, Being Yourself, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship PodcastTranscript Quotes“I think it can be desirable to have a difference of opinion in certain situations.”“It's about understanding what your boundaries are, what you enjoy, what your interests are, and then implementing that into your life.”“You can give people time to adjust without giving up your boundaries.”“Stop letting society, friends, and family dictate your choices when they're not fulfilling you and not making you happy.” “It's having each other's back when people test your boundaries as a couple.” “Before changing your behavior to fit in I would ask yourself, do people genuinely expect this from me, or have I just convinced myself they do?”“They were significantly more understanding than people saying no expected them to be.”