S3E6: How F*cking with Fear Helps Me Befriend Uncertainty

Episode 6 is an extra deep dive into how our fears can make us try to control people, places, and things — and how the attempt to annihilate ambiguity can erode intimacy, creativity, aliveness, and freedom.Per usual, I call myself out on the ways this rears its head for me personally. Ultimately, this is about how being devoted to living the questions can liberate us, and those we’re in relationship with — from fear.Reading this first passage is what inspired my unpacking of my own fears and everything else this episode spirals into:“Relationships do not suffer because love is absent. They suffer because control quietly replaces it. When the need to control begins to loosen, something more honest becomes possible. You no longer hold the other. You begin to meet them. And in that meeting: Not everything will stay. Not everything will return. But what remains will no longer be shaped by fear.” — VedicSoul by A Bhardwaj.The other quote and poem below are also referenced in the episode.Take what lands, leave the rest. Stay ungovernable.xSylvia“One of the great ironies of the human condition is that we are here to discover our soul’s perfection through imperfect teachers: one another.” - Linda HoweDie Before You Die by Rabia al Basri“Ironic, but one of the most intimate actsof our body isdeath.So beautiful appeared my death - knowing who then I would kiss,I died a thousand times before I died."Die before you die," said the ProphetMuhammad.Have wings that feared evertouched the Sun?I was born when all I oncefeared - I couldlove.”