S4: E16 Why You Don’t ‘Feel in the Mood’ — and What to Do About It

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Diane Mueller discusses her new book, 'Want to Want It,' focusing on the interplay between hormones, intimacy, and sexual health. She emphasizes the importance of understanding hormonal changes during parenthood, the need for comprehensive testing, and the differences between desire and arousal in relationships. The discussion also highlights the role of oxytocin in reducing stress and enhancing intimacy, as well as innovative tools that can help couples improve their sexual experiences. Dr. Mueller shares insights on the necessity of communication and prioritizing intimacy in relationships, while also teasing future works that will delve deeper into these topics.Chapters00:00 Technical Difficulties and Introduction00:46 Exploring Hormonal Changes Post-Childbirth03:43 Understanding Health Tests and Hormonal Balance09:38 The Importance of Optimal Hormone Levels12:25 Desire vs. Arousal: Understanding Intimacy17:57 Stress and Its Impact on Intimacy20:47 Prioritizing Relationships for Better Connection23:08 Hormonal Changes and Their Impact on Focus25:05 The Role of Oxytocin in Pleasure and Intimacy27:44 Understanding Orgasm and Its Effects on Desire29:05 The Evolution of Intimacy Through Life Stages31:55 Oxytocin: The Key to Stress Relief and Connection34:04 The Importance of Tracking Pleasure37:52 Innovative Tools for Enhancing Sexual Experience39:21 Shame and Its Impact on Sexual Pleasure39:25 Upcoming Works and Resources for CouplesGuest Bio:Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a seasoned sexual wellness authority, blending a strong educational foundation with a rich clinical and teaching experience. With a dual doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, Diane has illuminated the discourse on sexual health through her practice, My Libido Doc. Her personal journey through sexual health challenges has equipped her with a unique empathetic lens, enriching her holistic approach to patient care. Diane extends her expertise through 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, her online training institute, and by training medical professionals worldwide in functional medicine. Her proactive community engagements, including co-hosting sexual health events and participating in numerous summits, reflect her commitment to fostering a well-informed sexual wellness dialogue. At the heart of her practice lies the belief that a healthy libido is a cornerstone to holistic wellness, driving a practice that has orchestrated transformative health journeys for her clients.Hot And Modern Monogamy Club: MyLibidoClub.com or Easy to remember URL: modernmonogamyclub.comMy Podcast "Libido Lounge" mylibidodoc.com/podcastMy website: MyLibidoDoc.comYoutube: Youtube.com/@mylibidodocInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/Check out our new website:www.loveafterlullabies.comFollow Love After Lullabies on Instagram, Facebook or YouTube:⁠https://www.instagram.com/loveafterlullabies/⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/818194252548981https://www.youtube.com/@LoveAfterLullabiesVisit our Amazon Storefront:⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-fed02c38?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_aipsfinfluencer-fed02c38_1FAWEYQVF54XQ4X7TSY1⁠If you’d like to be a guest on our show or leave us a comment: [email protected] After Lullabies helps new and expectant parents stay connected through relationship coaching, postpartum wellness recipes, and date night meals. Tune into the podcast for expert advice and real conversations on love, parenting, and connection. Build a strong, lasting partnership with us! Before you were parents, you were partners - nurture both.