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EPISODE · Jul 23, 2025 · 49 MIN

Safe, Seen, and Secure: What Healthy Attachment Really Looks Like

from Breaking the Silence · host Raynea Wallace

What does it actually look like to feel secure in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving: secure attachment.In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking:💡 What secure attachment is (and what it isn’t)🧠 The mindset and nervous system of someone who feels safe in love📱 Real-life examples of how secure people respond to triggers and conflict🌿 How to begin developing secure traits—even if you weren’t raised with themHealing is possible. Security is learnable. And love doesn’t have to feel like a battlefield. 💛Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy HoAnxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHCThe Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys**You can find these books on Amazon**Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.comMack (on TikTok)Jbirdfit (On all platforms)Natashavctoria (TikTok)Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

What does it actually look like to feel secure in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving: secure attachment.In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking:💡 What secure attachment is (and what it isn’t)🧠 The mindset and nervous system of someone who feels safe in love📱 Real-life examples of how secure people respond to triggers and conflict🌿 How to begin developing secure traits—even if you weren’t raised with themHealing is possible. Security is learnable. And love doesn’t have to feel like a battlefield. 💛Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy HoAnxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, LMHCThe Anxious Hearts Guide by Rikki Cloys**You can find these books on Amazon**Creators on social media that I found helpful on my journey:Dr. Sarah Hensley (She is on all platforms). Her website is thelovedoc.comMack (on TikTok)Jbirdfit (On all platforms)Natashavctoria (TikTok)Anxious Hearts Guide (TikTok and IG) (She was anxious and her partner was dismissive avoidant and they now have a healthy relationship)

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