Secondary Infertility & PCOS: What To Do When Doctors Say “Just Keep Trying”

She was only 25 and already knew something was wrong. If you have one child and are secretly struggling to have another, this episode is for you. Margarita’s story of secondary infertility and PCOS shows what happens when “just keep trying” isn’t good enough. In this episode of Building Your Family, Lisa Schuman sits down with Margarita Lainez to talk about the often overlooked reality of secondary infertility and PCOS. After having her first child with ease, Margarita assumed a second would come naturally. Instead, she faced month after month of negative tests, dismissive “just keep trying” advice, and the heavy guilt of not giving her son a sibling. Margarita shares what it was like to live this while working inside the fertility world, how she finally pushed for a real workup and received a PCOS diagnosis, and the grief, shame, and loneliness that came with that season. Together, Lisa and Margarita explore self‑advocacy, setting boundaries, protecting your mental health, and finding the right support when friends, family, or even doctors don’t fully understand. If you’re in the middle of your own fertility journey, especially secondary infertility, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more equipped to ask for what you need. Inside this episode: What secondary infertility can feel like day‑to‑day Being told “just keep trying” when you know something is wrong Getting to a PCOS diagnosis and what self‑advocacy really looked like Shame, blame, and the pressure to “give a sibling” Setting boundaries, finding community, and caring for your mental health What grounded, realistic hope can look like after grief If you’re in secondary infertility or on a donor conception path and want help with the emotional and decision‑making side, that’s exactly what we do inside Building Your Family. 👉 Learn more and get support here: https://familybuilding.net/building-your-family-community/ Guest resources LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/margarita-lainez-950a2860/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/margaritalainez100/ #secondaryinfertility #PCOS #fertilityjourney #infertilitysupport #buildingyourfamily #donorconception #ttccommunity